Does this look familiar? ^^
The other night, we went out to dinner after a longer than expected day and spending longer than expected at the gym. I always used to comment on the couples that spent their dinners on their phones. Until I realized we were that couple that night (**note that we don't allow phones/electronics at the table at home, but we don't extend that to restaurants...not sure why, but it may be a new rule to implement).
I said to Scott, "You know...we should be talking to one another instead of on our phones." What a concept, huh?!
But let's face it... Life is busy. You're going one way while your spouse/significant other is going the other.
Sometimes it's like you're two ships passing in the night.
There are kids' events (sporting and otherwise), business meetings, unexpected late days at work, dog issues (ha), and any number of other things that pop up in a day/week/month.
It becomes easy to take one another for granted...to stop appreciating each other. And it becomes easy to grow apart or to find that other person to talk to (you know...the one that understands what you're going through).
But that, I promise you, is *not* the answer!!
For me, it is hard to recognize that everything else can wait (within reason). I tend to be insanely focused on what I'm doing and don't put it down, even to have a meaningful conversation with Scott...to be 100% present.
Scott and I actually just recently made a promise to one another that we take one a night a week for us...for date night. Now it doesn't have to be as romantic and elaborate as above, but it's a night away from work, Netflix, the house, responsibilities, etc. It's a night for us...to reconnect...or really, to stay connected.
We text all day long, but there's nothing like an amazing face-to-face conversation with the person you love. It's personal and you can hear and feel the emotions/feelings behind it. We definitely take texting for granted (all of us, not just Scott and I). It's become so easy to just text one another instead of actually talking.
It's actually pretty sad.
We let life get in the way. We rely on texting instead of actually talking. Things get misconstrued or misunderstood. We put other things first (even inanimate things like the computer or iPad).
Make the resolution to change that. Today. Start now.
Put down your smart phone or iPad or computer...whatever you're reading this on, and go have a meaningful conversation with your significant other, your mother or father, your children, your best friend. Make that personal connection...re-establish it if it's been far too long...stay connected!!!
I know it's not easy...and sometimes talking about our feelings or what's going on is scary. But it is so fulfilling. Having those conversations will help your relationships grow deeper and you'll be closer than ever.
Yes, life gets in the way. But don't let it. I promise, on your death bed, you won't be wishing for more time on your computer or iPad or X-Box or whatever. You're going to want your loved ones there, holding your hands, telling you they love you.
Spend that quality time with them now!! You won't regret it!!
With love and wellness,