What kind of person are you?
By that, I mean, what kind of person are you when things don't go as planned? When everything is falling apart around you? When something happens that you never dreamed would happen?
Who do you become?
I've had a lot of conversations lately about strength...specifically, how strong I have been through everything that has happened.
Want to know a secret?
I didn't always feel strong. In fact, there were many days I thought I was falling apart.
Want to know an even bigger secret?
I didn't know how to be any other way.
When a tragedy occurs, one of two things usually happens. Either a person crumbles and falls apart. Or they continue forward, one step at a time, doing what is necessary.
I didn't really ever think about this before as I had no reason to.
But when my life crumbled last summer, I very quickly found out which person I was. Once again, I didn't think anything of it, but just kept doing what was necessary.
I woke up every morning, continued coaching and working and taking care of things as needed. The easy thing would have been to fall apart. And sometimes I wanted to do just that. But the necessary thing? Well, that was to keep moving forward, one step at a time.
I'm happy that others view it as strength. And I suppose it is. But to me, it was just what I needed to do. Because it needed to be done. Period.
Something else that helped me was having those same people continue to tell me how strong I was, especially when I didn't believe it myself.
I firmly believe that we are what we believe. Or what others believe in us. Because that strength? Well, it came from having others to lean on, others who believed in me, others who helped me believe it in myself.
So when you're having trouble believing in yourself, in being strong, in continuing forward, find others who will do just that for you. It will keep you moving forward until you believe in yourself.
I hope you have a beautiful week! And hopefully we'll start having a real spring here soon!
With love and wellness,