Sometimes I like to do things the hard way. You know...that whole stubborn thing.
I have been trying to figure out for months now...yes, for MONTHS...how to get back to where I was last year before my life was flipped upside down. I've made notes. I've tried replicating what I was doing. I tried asking friends. I've tried... Every. Little. Thing.
Until I realized something... I can't go back and do what I did back then. Because I am not the same person I was then! This past year has changed me into someone new. Thus, the old way of doing things won't work for the new me!
It was like a light bulb went off for me.
I mean...a light bulb that took six months to turn on! But still!!
We often spend so much time looking back at what was that we forget there is so much more out there for us. I don't have to do what I did last year to be successful. And the more I fought to do the same old stuff from last year, the more discontent I felt. It was right there all along, telling me what I was trying to do wasn't right. I just wasn't listening.
So as of last week, I have let go of going backwards. Of fighting the old. I am embracing the new and moving forward. I wish I could tell you exactly how I came to terms with that, but it literally hit me one afternoon after trying to search my brain for different ways of doing things.
What I love the most about this realization is that the world really is my oyster. I literally have it at my fingertips, to do with it exactly what I please!
There is no rule book. I don't have to struggle to figure out what worked last year. I get to decide and experiment what works for me TODAY! And that is exciting! It opens so many possibilities for me!
This same thing can be said for everything in life. If you struggled when you were younger or had some bad things happen, don't look back at them with regret or despair. Focus instead on what you can do today to make things better. How can you address those things today to make a better future for yourself?
There's no sense in beating yourself up, in looking longingly at closed doors, at fighting the old and the "what-ifs." You can't change it. You can't make any of it different. But what you can do is change it from here going forward. And you can focus on building everything up!
I don't know about you, but I love that about life.
So here's my plan for you. Forgive yourself. Yep - that's the first step! Forgive yourself for whatever you're holding onto. And then decide what you want your future to look like. Make goals. Set a plan in motion. And then execute that plan.
I know it sounds way easier said than done, but I promise, this is doable and attainable!
Can't do it alone? That's easy! I am here to help! Let's chat about what I can do for you as your Health Coach! Having someone help with accountability and setting those goals will make achieving them that much easier! I'd love to help!
I hope you all have a beautiful week! And focus on building the new (instead of staring longingly at the past!).
With love and wellness,