I don't understand why it's so hard for people to understand that not every relationship is created equal.
Okay - maybe that's not true. It took me a long time to understand it. I would have a relationship end and then question how that person could move on so quickly or have a much better relationship with the next person. I couldn't understand why I wasn't good enough (read my last week's blog post about that topic!).
And now...well, now I know each relationship teaches us something. They either nurture a strength or a weakness within us. And hopefully, if/when each relationship ends, you learn something from it. You take something positive away from it. To make your next relationship better.
Otherwise, you continue to have the same type of relationships and experiences until you finally learn whatever lesson there is to learn! Believe me, I've been there...don't fall into that trap! It just leads to heartache and a lot of lost time.
This has been something that's been on my mind for awhile now as I continue seeing posts on social media about people's exes and slights on their new boyfriends/girlfriends.
I mean, I get it. People get hurt and feelings are hurt and we then hold grudges. I truly get it.
But here's the thing. Just because someone doesn't work out in a relationship with you, doesn't mean that person can't ever be in a healthy relationship with someone else.
Not everyone is meant to be together.
And yes...it really is that simple.
But we like to make it hard. We like to live in the past instead of letting it go. We like to hold on to the things that we feel spited us. I mean...we are human!
Find someone that makes you happy. That lights up when they see you. That you look forward to seeing and talking to every day.
Don't settle. Don't "put up with" things that rub you the wrong way.
But goodness...let it go if it doesn't work out. Quit holding onto grudges. Quit stalking their social media and making posts about it.
Learn something from your previous relationships. Learn something and then let it go.
I can look back at every single one of my past relationships and see exactly why they didn't work out. I couldn't at the time and it was heartbreaking, but I thank God now that they didn't.
Let me repeat it again, because I think it's important to say again...not everyone is meant to be together. People are brought together to teach each other lessons. And that doesn't mean it's meant to last forever.
People are brought into your life for a reason, a season, a blessing, or a lesson.
Take whatever it is from those relationships and move on. More important, try to take the positives from those relationships. Grow from them. Be a better version of you going into your next relationship.
And don't hold onto grudges...don't point fingers, because it takes two. There's always a reason why it doesn't work out (or multiple reasons). And it typically involves both people. Let it be...no sense dwelling on the past and holding on to the negativity of it.
I promise...letting it go will make you so much happier! Focus on the lessons from it, be the bigger person, and move on as a better version of you!
I hope y'all have an awesome week. And be safe if Florence is heading your way!
With love and wellness,