I've always been a big talker. In fact, my nickname growing up was Mouth of the South. I ask a lot of questions and I talk a lot. And I am a HUGE over-sharer of information.
Growing up, I often felt like this was a bad thing or a burden. But for me, talking is my way of healing myself and whatever is going on inside.
But I realized, sometimes too late, that not everyone was like that. Or appreciated me being like that. Oops.
As I've gotten older, I now know that communication is absolutely key. Not just in a marriage, but in every relationship you have. If the other person doesn't know what's wrong, how can anything ever be resolved?
Now, I'll admit, while I may have been a huge talker and over-sharer, I wasn't necessarily the greatest at actually communicating well and accurately. This was a huge problem in pretty much all of my relationships.
Instead of expressing that I was hurt or sad or disappointed, I would get angry. Deeply angry. Like, unpleasantly angry. For everyone.
It took me a long time to realize I was masking my underlying feelings with that anger. It was easier to deal with the anger than to admit I was hurting or scared or whatever it was. But all that was doing was damaging my relationships.
It's still super scary to be vulnerable and admit when I'm hurt or scared, but it creates an intimacy and closeness that I've never had before, especially with my husband.
For some reason, this past week, communication has been at the front of my mind. Communication with others, but also communication with God. Scott and I have been reading together to grow closer to each other and to God. It has opened my eyes to the importance of praying, aka, communicating with God, but also that if we pay attention, He communicates back with us.
I am still learning to listen, which often means slowing down and learning to quiet my mind. This is almost harder for me than it was learning to communicate effectively with others.
It is a daily work in progress. Both in the communicating part and the learning to listen part. But it's led to some much closer relationships, a deeper understanding of who I am and what I want in life, and having a better relationship with God than I ever have before.
I hope that sharing this with you helps you to open up a little more. Allow yourself to be vulnerable and watch the changes that occur in your relationships. You will literally be astounded.
Have a beautiful day! And a blessed week!
With love and wellness,