We are a society that wants to look and feel good all the time. We want to have and own all the nicest things. We want to know everything. Do everything. Be everything to everyone. And we have all of these things blasted at us through social media all the time.
So instead of focusing on the things we do have and the things we are, we focus on what we don't have or what we aren't. We want to be different from what we are. We compare our lives to others. We want what they have.
But why? Why do you want to be someone other than exactly who you are? Because who you are is amazing. Perfectly imperfect.
And yes, there may be things you want to improve, but don't compare yourself to anyone else. And start focusing on all the things you do have and all the things you are. Because those are so much better to focus on.
And I'll admit. I'm guilty of this too. Especially during this last week as I was no longer pregnant. I was very hard on myself with the weight I'd gained during the pregnancy (mind you, it wasn't a lot, but it was for me). Throughout the whole pregnancy, I was eating more carbs, because it was often all I could stomach. So many of my normal every day choices made my stomach turn. I had to eat what I could in order to sustain myself and grow the baby.
However, that also meant it changed my body's composition. And yes, I know it's supposed to when you're pregnant, but it's a hard adjustment when you've never made it past 8 weeks before. So this past week, I've continued telling myself I wasn't pregnant any longer. I should stop eating like I was.
Yes, I was very hard on myself.
I had to turn my focus around and love my body for what it has done for me and continues to do for me. I was growing a baby. My body changed because it had to. And my body didn't know I was no longer pregnant immediately. I had to give myself grace during this period.
I started treating myself better too. Eating the way I know that nourishes me and can sustain me through my days. Slowly easing back into workouts without overdoing it. And being kind to myself during this period of grieving.
I have and am so much more than how I look. As are you. I'm able to be a CrossFit coach and personal trainer and demonstrate the movements to various classes throughout the week. I'm able to be a health coach and guide women to become healthier and happier in their health and wellness journeys. I'm able to run and manage a household, to include two fur pups, a 5 year old every other week, and my husband. I'm able to run and manage my business from home. And I love what I do.
It's a hard adjustment when you change from focusing on the negatives to focusing on the positives. It takes some work. But it is doable.
I was down on myself. And with everything that has happened in my life the past couple weeks, it would have been very easy to stay there, playing the woe is me game.
But I know that doesn't work for me, especially in the long run. I don't like to feel that negative all the time.
So I changed my perspective. Journaling helped. Talking to my family and my husband helped. Knowing that Kynsleigh is so incredibly loved by so many helped. Her loss was tragic...but I can't let it stop me from loving myself and living my life. To do anything other than that would dishonor her.
So tell me... What perspectives do you need to change? What do you love about yourself? Make a habit of telling yourself every day 3 things you love about yourself. And if you start going down the negative path, immediately notice it and change those thought patterns. Know that you are worthy of loving yourself. You are enough exactly as you are.
Love yourself. Love yourself for everything you already are. Be kind to yourself. You. Are. Enough.
Have a beautiful week. And welcome to June! Let's see what's in store for us this month :)
With love and wellness,