It’s inevitable. People are going to disappoint you. People are going to make you upset. Piss you off. Make you cry.
But....That isn’t the important part of this message. What is important is how you respond to it.
Do you let it fester? Do you let it stew? Let it eat away at you?
Or do you forgive? Do you talk about it and let it go? Allow peace and forgiveness to be present in how you respond?
Sometimes people are going to do things that upset you, and they’ll never even know about it. Whether that’s because you say nothing to them or because they simply don’t care (even if you do say something).
Whatever the case may be, staying upset or angry only hurts you...not them. Especially if you say nothing to them. Or worse, if you say something and they just don’t care.
If you allow the anger, the disappointment, the sadness to fester, you’ll be holding on to these negative feelings, thus bringing you down...and making YOU feel bad about the whole thing.
One of the hardest things we have to do as humans is to forgive others for an apology we never receive. To let go of past hurts and anger that do nothing but hurt us.
I don’t know about you, but I don’t like letting someone else have so much control over my feelings and the resulting actions.
Stuff happens. People are just that...people. We are selfish. We don’t always think of others in our actions. And we are going to hurt other people...whether it’s intentional or not.
Forgive them anyways. Love them anyways.
And don’t allow them to control your feelings, your emotions, your actions.
What is one tried and true way you use to forgive someone? Especially if an apology is never received. I’d love to see how others handle this often difficult thing.
I’d like to say I’m really good at doing this, but I struggle with it. I have to verbally acknowledge, often out loud and to a friend, that feeling this way doesn’t serve me. That it doesn’t do me any good to be angry or upset, because I can guarantee it doesn’t affect the other person. I also pray. A lot.
I mean... We all want justice. We want the apology. We want to feel justified in how we feel. We want the acknowledgment that the other person did us wrong.
But that isn’t how this world operates...not on our schedule or how we want it to. Sucks, right?
Instead, we have to learn how to adjust to the world and the things that happen to us. But isn’t that the beauty of it? We get to decide how we act and react to things. And really, how amazing is that?!
I hope you all have a beautiful week. And please let me know how you move through something like this and offer forgiveness to others.
With love and wellness,