So this is the week of love. Tomorrow is Valentine's Day...the day everyone goes above and beyond to make their significant other feel special...feel loved.
The real question is...is this the only day you're acting that way?
Far too often, we get so caught up in our own little worlds that we forget to give our significant others the attention and the love that is needed or deserved. We take each other for granted. And we expect days like Valentine's Day or birthdays or holidays to make up for it.
For a long time, Scott and I were not on the same page with how to love one another. We were always bumping heads and wondering if the other person actually felt the way they said they did.
It took us a long time to figure out that we expressed our love differently (duh) and that how we needed to be and feel loved from the other was different.
I used to ask him all the time if he loved me and why. I was constantly looking for reassurance and affirmations. It drove him crazy.
It wasn't until I figured out that how I feel loved is through positive words of affirmation and I figured out a way to tell him this that it became easier for us to understand one another.
It also helped when I realized his way of showing love was through his actions and things he did for me and our family. I had to stop expecting him to show me love the way I wanted him to without telling him that's how I needed to be loved.
I stopped getting frustrated when he was doing all these things around the house but not with me, because I realized that's how he showed his love for me. And he stopped getting frustrated when he realized that I needed to hear some of those nice lovey-dovey things every now and again.
The way we figured out to communicate that to one another was by saying we needed our love buckets filled. You know, the buckets that tend to get empty when life gets in the way.
On those super long weeks where we are like two ships passing in the night, being able to look at my husband and say, "I need my love bucket filled," is all it takes for him to pull me close and tell me exactly what I need to hear.
It's amazing what a little communication and understanding will do for a relationship. It may have taken us awhile to get there, but it's made all the difference for us.
What about you? Does your love bucket need filled? Does your significant other know how to fill your love bucket the way YOU need him/her to? Knowing this is half the battle!
I challenge you to figure out how you feel loved...and for your significant other to figure it out too. Then talk to one another about it. Learn how to fill each other's love buckets, and make sure you keep them filled!
Happy Valentine's Day!
Have a beautiful day! And a blessed week!
With love and wellness,