I’ve been a little lost lately. Kind of all over the place. Do you know that feeling? Where you have your end destination in mind, but you’re all over the place in what to do to get there?
Yeah, that’s been me these past couple months. I have a very lofty goal set for myself…a couple, actually. And I know there are several steps I need to take to get there. But I seem to be floundering in trying to figure out exactly what steps to take and how to get there the most efficiently and effectively.
Honestly, it’s been stressing me out and making me ask myself whether what I’m doing is worth it.
The reality of it is that it is 110% worth it. My goals…where I want to be in life…scare the crap out of me. But they also excite me to the core. This is usually a HUGE sign that I should be doing those things that get me to those goals.
Another sign is that I am completely unhappy in my current situation…and whenever I’m away from it, I am stress-free, happy, and at peace. Hmmmm…makes you think, huh?
We are taught from a young age, whether it’s on purpose or unintentional, that we should follow a “set” path for our lives. You know the one I’m talking about…go to school, get good grades, get into a good college, continue getting good grades, graduate (preferably with honors), get an amazing job right out of college, find the perfect (for you) spouse, get married, have babies, live happily ever after in your beautiful house with a white picket fence, all while working at your dream job where you get paid the big bucks.
Isn’t that how it works?
Here’s how my path looked (let me know if it sounds familiar): went to school, got good grades, went to a small (but good) college, got good grades (and beat myself up if I didn’t), graduated (yep, with honors), got the dream job I thought I wanted right out of college (amazing, right?), found a series of not-so-perfect (for me) guys, switched agencies (but stayed in the same job), still dating those not-so-perfect (for me) guys…no marriage, no kids…unhappy with my “dream job,” and certainly without a white picket fence.
I don’t know when I realized I was unhappy in my job, but I did a few things to try to change it. I deployed to Kuwait for six months, I moved offices (from northern VA to Norfolk), I changed my mindset. Nothing helped. I dreaded (and still do) going to work. I found (and still do) any excuse to avoid doing the work I had (have) to do.
I know what you’re thinking…that’s what we all do! That’s nothing new. Well, my friend, it is new for me. I am a giver…I give 100% of myself and my time to whatever endeavor I take, including a job. When that started changing, when my focus was no longer on working but on avoiding said work, I knew something wasn’t right.
It took me awhile to figure out, but I finally realized I had taken the path that was set out for me…the one I was expected to take…the one that our parents and their parents had taken…not the one that brought me happiness and joy.
Think about it…our parents, their parents, and their parents before them all grew up in this world where you graduated from school, got married, had babies, worked in one career your whole life until retirement, and then had your older years to enjoy the fruits of their labor.
But what’s wrong with this picture? You work in this career that you may completely despise just to pay the bills…but do you have time (and money) to go on those fun vacations? Do you have the time to spend with your family? Or are you stressed, trying to make ends meet, going to a job every day that you dislike? The real question is why do we have to wait for retirement to really start living??
I. Want. Something. Different.
I want something that I wake up every morning excited to do! I want to follow my dreams, follow my passion! I want to feel 100% alive and happy and like I am living my purpose!
I don’t want to be unhappy when I get home from work, because I’ve spent all day doing something that drains me. I don’t want to be grumpy with my family, because I’ve had to deal with things that mean absolutely nothing to me. I want to race home in excitement to share my amazing day with my significant other and family!! Think about how amazing our quality of life would be when we are doing what we love!!
We spend entirely too much of our time at work to let it drain us or leave us feeling unhappy and unsatisfied. I’m sad it took me so long to figure it out, but I’m happy I’m still young enough to have figured it out and do something about it!
And you know what? I’m taking those steps to make it happen!! It may be a complete 180 from my current job and people may think I’m completely crazy, but I am bound and determined to make my dreams come true! (For those of you that are unaware of my goals, I want to leave my government job to focus on my health coaching and love for oils! Health, fitness, nutrition…that’s where my passion lies!!)
Yes, a little clarification and reassessment was needed…but I now know what I need to do in order to make my dreams come true. I broke it down into small pieces, so it is more manageable. And I also keep reminding myself that it doesn’t have to be done all at once. Nor will it happen overnight. Small, consistent steps taken on a daily basis will get me exactly where I want to be!
So if there’s something you’re struggling with, having issues figuring out, remind yourself that sometimes the journey involves one step forward and two steps back. But that doesn’t mean it is a failure or will never happen! It just means you’ve successfully learned how to cha-cha!! :)
Keep an open mind, and if one way doesn’t work out, try another one! And take those small, consistent steps on a daily basis, and one day, you’ll wake up and find yourself living your dream! And most important, celebrate your successes!! Yes, even the small ones! Celebrate you!! Because YOU…your happiness…are 150% worth it!!
Have a fabulous day!
With love and wellness,