Far too often, we look backwards at what could have been or what might have been and we wish things could have been different. We spend far too much time wondering what we could have done differently or how things could have been different if we made X or Y choice. But really, how productive is that?
While I certainly wish there were things I could change about my past, I know there is absolutely nothing I can do about it now except to accept what has happened and where I am now. I know that my past has shaped and defined who I am today. It certainly hasn't always been easy, but I can't change one bit of it.
Are you guilty of that? Instead of being thankful for where you are today, you look wistfully at the past and regret your choices or what happened. Or worse, you can't live in the present moment or look ahead because you are stuck thinking about what could have been.
Sometimes we have doors closed in our lives that we don't understand at the moment. And oftentimes, we spend too much time starting longingly at the closed door that we miss the other opportunities in our lives.
I know I have been there in the past, and I'll admit, I often wasted time staring at those closed doors. And let's be real, I am currently in the same place. I'm trying my darnedest to look ahead with hope, but sometimes, that is difficult to do.
We think we have it all figured out. Our lives, our plans, our future path. And in one instant, everything is changed. Your beautifully planned future (aka, that finely set table) is flipped upside down. And I can spend all my time being upset or wondering "What if" or wishing things could be different, but I would end up being stuck in the same place. And I don't know about you, but I don't want to be stuck.
So instead, I am choosing to look forward with hope. To know that where I am is exactly where I'm supposed to be. I am choosing to view this as a positive, fresh start, and that my future is wide open, and whatever I make of it.
I'll admit, it isn't always the easiest to focus on the now and the future, but there is no sense in looking longingly at the past and wishing things were different. Like I said above, I can't change it, so no sense staying there.
So here's to a fresh, new start. It's a Monday, so it's certainly a good time for a new start! Positive changes, hope for the future, and amazing things happening!
I hope you all have a beautiful week!
With love and wellness,