I used to have a bad habit of living in the future. I wouldn't fully appreciate where I was in life and always looked forward to what was to come.
Have you found yourself there? Saying, "I'll be happy when..." Fill in the blank with whatever you're waiting for. I'll be happy when I have a baby. I'll be happy when I pay off my debt. I'll be happy when I have a new job. I'll be happy when I have a boyfriend/girlfriend/significant other.
But what does that do? Does it leave you fulfilled? Does it leave you feeling happy and content with where you are in life?
I can tell you what it does, because I've lived it. Too many times to count.
You feel unhappy with where you are in life. You aren't happy with what you have. You are constantly looking forward and wondering if you'll ever get what you want. You always wonder what if.
I found myself there after having Kynsleigh. Wondering if I would ever have a healthy pregnancy...if I would ever have our miracle baby. It left me feeling very down and depressed and certainly not fulfilled or happy. I didn't like how it made me feel.
Thankfully, I have an amazing friend who sent me a book that helped me discover my new morning routine. I know I've talked about it in previous posts, but it's something that I think really helped me change my mindset. It helped me focus on the good I currently have in my life and to truly be grateful for all I have. It helped me to live in the present moment and to stop living for the future.
I've been doing my new morning routine for a little over a month now. I can tell that I'm more relaxed, I feel lighter, and I'm much more appreciative of everything I have in life. I no longer constantly look to the future in an attempt to find my happiness. I know that whatever is meant for me will find its way to me.
Spending every morning focusing on things I'm grateful for has changed my perspective in so many ways. I truly am blessed with everything I have in life. And I know that focusing on things I don't have isn't going to get me what I want.
I previously felt unhappy and a discontent with where I was in life. I kept questioning if what I was doing was the right thing. If there was something more out there for me. I didn't feel like I was doing enough. I felt like I had to force things to happen in life.
It's amazing how changing one thing in my life has changed my perspective and my overall sense of happiness. I feel a peace I haven't felt in awhile. I know that no matter what happens in my life, I will be okay. I've been through a lot, and it's all led me exactly where I'm supposed to be.
Nick and I made plans for 2020, and while it hasn't gone exactly like we thought it would, things have fallen into place. I stopped worrying about it and prayed more than I ever have. And again, I've focused on all the things I'm grateful for. All the things I currently have. Because here's the truth...when you focus on what you have, you'll get more of it.
Y'all...I stopped trying to force things to happen and just let them all fall where they may. Not only has it helped me feel better, but it has helped me let so much go. Whatever happens, happens. And I'll be happy and okay either way.
If you need help with changing your outlook, changing your morning routine, let's chat. I know it seems silly that something so small can change so much, but it's the only thing that I've changed over this last month. And I can truly tell the difference in how I feel and how I look at things. I truly feel a peace I haven't felt in a long time.
I'd love to help you get there too.
Have a beautiful week. Focus on the things you're grateful for. And live in the moment. Be thankful for the moment.
With love and wellness,