There comes a point in life when you have to decide whether you should turn the page or close the book. And at what point do you make this decision? And more importantly, how do you know if you're making the right decision?
So...quick back story for those new to my blog.
Last October, I got married. It was such a beautiful day, despite Hurricane Matthew attempting to completely ruin it. However, 8 months later, my world came crashing down around me. In a way that I would have NEVER imagined.
Fast forward four months and it's now time for Halloween. I've been through hell and back over the summer, but I'm finally coming back into my own. And a friend of mine invited me to a Halloween party. My immediate response was that I didn't have a costume and had zero idea what to go as. And almost immediately after that thought, I said, "Oh...I have my wedding dress. I can go as a zombie bride!"
I have no idea where that came from or why it was the first thought for a Halloween costume, but I messaged my best friend, who was also my Matron of Honor in my wedding, and asked her if she wanted to help me make the transformation. Thank goodness she said yes, because I wouldn't have had the amazing results I did without her!
So we planned to meet on Wednesday morning after the gym to have some fun with the dress. Now, mind you, I haven't looked at my wedding dress in person since zipping it up in the bag last October. So Tuesday night, I pull it out of the closet to take a look and see if I was going to be emotional. I mean, duh. I am the emotional queen (right, mom?!), so I wanted to get it all out at home, in the privacy of my bedroom, if it was going to happen.
So I unzip the bag and holy moly, I forgot the lace and how soft it was. Yep, I was petting my dress. But no tears. As I get to the bottom of the dress, I bust out laughing. I knew the bottom was FILTHY from the hurricane, but totally forgot how high up it went (and just HOW dirty it got)!!
I'll admit...I had a moment of "Do I really want to destroy this beautiful dress?" But it was fleeting...because I get up to the top and bust out laughing AGAIN at the amount of cover-up that was under the bosom line (due to my atrocious tan lines). And I knew this was exactly what I needed and wanted to do!
So here comes Wednesday. And...well...I'll just let you look through the photos below. We have a few before pictures of us having fun with the dress. Because believe me, it was FUN. I laughed harder than I have in quite awhile! And my bestie, Kim, my friend, Danielle, and my boss, Jeff, even had a blast!! And then check out the afters too!
Now that you've seen the photos... can I just say how insanely talented my bestie is? She did my make-up, both the glam and the zombie side, and all my "wounds." I'm so blessed to have her in my life because I would have NEVER been able to do that on my own! Let's just say removing all the make-up and the wounds was fun, LOL.
There were no sad feelings or emotions associated with turning my dress into my Halloween costume. Just excitement and laughter and fun! It was a huge release for me and I'm pretty sure for Kim too. When you have an ultimate betrayal, sometimes you need to destroy some things to release the anger and frustration and hurt. And I'd say we succeeded!
I spent this past summer deciding if I needed to turn the page or to close the book. In my head, it's still June because I lost my summer. It is pretty much a blur up until the end of September / beginning of October. Sad to say, but true.
So how do you decide which decision is right?
For me, it's all about feelings. By that I mean, how does a certain decision make me feel? If I feel off or bad about a decision, then it usually means that's not the right one for me. If I feel at peace or calm after making a decision, then I know it's the right one for me. And often times, I make the decision and then realize it wasn't the right one very shortly after.
Luckily, I've gotten better at not rushing into my decisions...mainly, so I don't have to go back on my word after the fact when I realize it wasn't the right decision.
And that's pretty much where I am now. I haven't rushed into any decision I've made this summer nor do I plan to now.
Let's just say that sometimes the smartest decision is to close the whole darn book.
What are your tried and true ways to make decisions? And how do you know if you're making the right ones? I'd love to hear about them in the comments!
Have a beautiful week, and a safe and Happy Halloween!
With love and wellness,