It's hard to be yourself in a world that tells you what you should be doing or what you should look like or what you should have or what job you should have.
In your 20s? Okay - you should be partying it up, having a good time, healthy and happy, no real plans on settling down just yet.
In your 30s? Okay - you should start settling down...find that significant other and get married...start having a family...have a good job/career and still be healthy and happy.
In your 40s? Okay - you should be well established in your career and with your family. Maybe start thinking about retirement and what you're going to do after you retire. Better still be healthy and happy too!
In your 50s? Okay - Woo hoo! It's retirement time! Right?! You should have an awesome stockpile in savings and you should be heading for retirement and a happy life after a long career! Kids should be starting to head off to college and you have an empty nest to celebrate life with your spouse! Don't forget to be happy and healthy too!! Keep up the good work!
You get the picture. It's the shoulds...and darn it, you *have* to look a certain way, and act a certain way, and have a certain job, and move through life in a certain way. Right?!
It's scary to step outside of those labels...outside of those "shoulds." It's scary to step outside of the box and do something different. I'll be the first to admit that.
When I first started thinking about getting my health coach certification, I had a major freakout moment...like, major. I couldn't imagine leaving my government job and ran through every possible "What if" situation in my head. It was bad.
And as I started going through the schooling and leaning towards making my health coaching and doTERRA my "day job," you wouldn't believe the comments and remarks I've received from people. Holy crap...what was I thinking? Was I crazy? How could I leave my cushy government job for my own personal business ventures?
I was told I should wait...to be married. To make more money in my personal ventures. To have more clients. To be sure I would succeed.
You know what happens then? You end up waiting for your life to happen...and it just passes you by, hoping and wishing that things would happen for you. And before you know it, life has moved forward and your hopes and dreams have been left in the past.
I do NOT want to live that way! I want to live my life the way *I* want to live!! Happy and healthy and pursuing my passion! If that makes me crazy, so be it.
Does it absolutely terrify me to leave my "cushy" day job and not know what will happen? You better believe it. Do I have faith that God will provide and everything will work out? Yep!! Again, you better believe it!
Yes, being different is scary. Stepping outside of your comfort zone and outside of other people's comfort zones is scary. But don't let that stop you!!
Don't be afraid to be YOU!! To be the wonderful, beautiful person that you are! And don't be afraid to pursue your dreams and your passions!! It's okay to dream big!!
Another thing that is a stealer of joy is comparing your life, your journey to others' lives. We have a bad habit of seeing what's on Facebook or what others post and thinking "I wish I had X" or "I wish my life was like Y." Even worse, we do that with celebrities and the magazines and TV shows...and that's not reality!!!
Your life, exactly as it is and where you are, is enough. You are exactly where you should be.
Love your life. Live your life...for YOU. Feel the fear and do it anyway...whatever *it* is!!
With love and wellness,
PS - I need this message every now and again too. I find myself doubting my decisions and wondering if I am being crazy. But I'm finally giving myself permission to live the life I want to lead! Not the one that is expected or *should* be lived.