"I'm too old."
"I don't know enough."
"I'm different from everyone else."
"I've never done something like this before."
Do any of these sound familiar? Have you ever said one of these to yourself or to someone else?
Far too often, we use these as excuses for not moving forward. For staying in the same place, day after day, year after year.
We get stuck.
We allow these same thoughts to keep us in the "safe" place we've been in. I know I was stuck there for a long time. I was too scared to make any changes. I was too scared I would FAIL. That I was too old to make huge life changes. That I had never been a sales person before. That I couldn't help people.
Wow. All those things I was telling myself....well, they were LIES. They were nothing more than things I believed, for far too long, that weren't true. Remember my post from last week? What we tell ourselves is what we believe! Yes, even when they are lies.
But you know what's great about life? You are NEVER too old to make a huge life change. And there are ways to LEARN new things and continue growing and expanding our knowledge base. And who cares if you've never done something before? Now is your chance to do it and cross it off your list!
As children, we were fearless. Do you remember that? I was just talking about this with my roommate. Swinging on the swings and being fearless as we jumped from the highest point of the swing and laughing uncontrollably the whole way! But now, as an adult, I get on a swing and the thought of jumping terrifies me. Yes, it could be the two knee surgeries I've had, but still, it terrifies me.
When and why does this change? Why do we stop being fearless? Why do we stop being courageous and wanting to learn and try new things? Why do we want to stay stuck in the same place, even if it makes us unhappy?
Is it because it's "easier?" Is it because we know we'll get that paycheck every two weeks? Is it because it's the "safe" route?
Yes. Yes. And yes.
I know those answers because they were why I stayed in my unhappy place for longer than I should have. I didn't trust in myself. I didn't trust in the process. I didn't trust that things would be okay.
But I am so happy I took the leap of faith two years ago...WOW. I just realized this month marks two years that I've been out on my own, away from the safety net of my government job. How crazy is that?!
I was so terrified that I was making the wrong decision, but after walking out of my boss's office from telling her I was leaving, I knew I had made the right decision. I felt lighter, happier, at ease. And while it certainly hasn't been the easiest journey, it has 100% been worth every single crazy bit of it!
So yes, know that it won't always be easy. But also know that your gut, your heart, will tell you when you're headed in the right direction. Learn to listen to it. To trust it. And know that you are NEVER too old to start something new. Ever.
Be brave. Be uncertain. Be different. Start late. JUST START.
Whatever it is, just START. Take risks. Take chances. It may just change your life.
Have a beautiful week!
With love and wellness,