As we close out 2018 and head into 2019, I want to take a moment to thank all of you for your continued love and support and beautiful words on my posts. I read every single comment, many of which bring me to tears. You all are amazing!
As you know, 2018 was a trying year with many changes. And you all have been there throughout it all. I'm an open book, much to my mom's dismay (sorry mom...love you!). But it's how I've always been and will continue to be. So keep on following me to keep an eye on my journey!
I'm also ending 2018 as Whitney Decker!
I'll let that sink in a little bit.
Yep - Nick and I got married yesterday. We had a small, intimate affair, which was perfect. Honestly, it was more perfect than I could have imagined. It was exactly what we both wanted. The people who love and support us the most were there, and believe me, it was an emotionally charged day. We plan on having a big party later in the year (summa-summa-summa time!) to celebrate with everyone :)
Never have I been with a man who has unconditionally loved and supported me, even on my worst days. It's such an amazing feeling to know he is there for me, no matter what. I can't wait to see what 2019 has in store for us!
And let me tell you, he and I have big plans for this year! I'm so excited for all we have going on and all that is to come! I can't get into a lot of it just yet, but know that you will hear all about it when the time comes! It involves us owning our own business and becoming free from working for anyone else! We are both beyond stoked for what's to come!
Nick and I are also setting other huge goals for 2019...but not just setting them and leaving them be. We are working out the details to make these goals a reality! Without mapping out and knowing the necessary steps, or at least an idea of them, to reach your goals, you won't do anything to actually achieve those goals.
So what goals do you have for 2019? I'd love to know so we can help hold each other accountable! It's going to be a hell of a year! And I'm 1000% looking forward to it!
Be safe tonight. Have an amazing time. And ring in 2019 celebrating with those you love!
I'll see y'all next year!
With love and wellness,
I hope you all have a beautiful Christmas!
Get away from social media and spend today and tomorrow with your friends and family...all the people you love!
This season isn't about what you get (or even what you give)...it's about the love and joy and spending time with people you may not get to see all year long.
I may not get to spend this holiday with my momma, but I sure have some pretty amazing people in my life this year. Plus, I get to see her December 29th, so I'm excited!
Have a beautiful day and Merry Christmas!
I love y'all!
With love and wellness,
As 2018 comes to a close, this is the perfect opportunity to see how your year has been. Did you reach your goals? Did something totally new and drastic happen? Or was it same old, same old? Did you end up where you wanted to be? Or somewhere completely different?
For me, 2018 has been life-changing. I spent a lot of it still in survival mode from my crazy 2017, but as it comes to a close, I am transitioning back to thrive mode!
It's such a different feeling to have closure in something that flipped my life completely upside down. And it's a bit of an adjustment to no longer feel like I have to penny pinch and make sure I don't spend any extra money, just in case. That switch has taken a bit of adjustment...but it's one that is necessary. I can't continue to live like that!
I think it's fun to look back at the year and see how things have gone. I started 2018 in a bit of a rush. I thought I had found someplace to live for at least a few years, but it turned out I needed to find someplace and move within a matter of days. It was a whirlwind!
I then thought I could take a breather and that I would be okay for the next year. I traveled to Japan for almost 3 weeks...something I never even imagined! It was an amazing trip, but one that taught me a lot about myself and my heart and where I was in life.
When I got home, I very quickly realized I wasn't where I wanted to be. Things still felt like a constant struggle and I was unhappy with my living and financial situation. Something needed to change.
Over the summer, I started applying for several different part time jobs. Ones that I thought I would enjoy and could fit into my hectic schedule. I was contacted by a few different ones, had some interviews, but never heard back from any of them. Turns out, I was secretly glad that I didn't get any calls back.
But I was still looking for something. Per my last post, you learned I still had $4,100 left in credit card debt. I was terrified as to how I was going to pay it off. I signed up for Uber and Lyft, but never ended up driving for them. Also turns out, I didn't want to go outside what I was already doing.
In the summer, after Nick and I had been dating for a few months, he reminded me of my love for health coaching and how that would fit easily into my schedule. He also suggested I look into adding personal training to my schedule. It was like a light bulb went off. I mean, duh.
Yes, sometimes it takes someone else smacking you upside the head with information to remind you of the things that are important to you.
Things started changing when I added both of those back in to my life. It's been such a fun journey helping others reach their goals, both with health coaching and personal training. It brings me such joy to see others achieve their happiness, their lifts, their personal bests. It often brings me to tears (yep...I'm THAT girl, LOL).
In August, I abruptly moved again. It was a last minute decision, but one that was absolutely necessary. I was so stressed and unhappy and blah. Moving wasn't in the plans, but something that was desperately needed.
Since then, life has been on the upswing...a whirlwind of upswing. I found my happiness and bliss in health coaching and personal training. I finally got divorced...and then engaged. And I am in the midst of planning a small wedding...I get to marry my best friend, my love, my biggest supporter.
Life has a funny way of giving you exactly what you need. It may not be what you thought you wanted...and it may not be in the way you wanted it, but it certainly gives you what you need.
I wouldn't change any of 2018. I've grown so much. Learned so much. Changed so much. And I'm so excited for what 2019 has in store for me.
Life will always have ups and downs...and now I have someone to share them with.
How about you? How was your 2018? I'd love to hear how it went. And I'd love to know what your goals are for 2019!
Have an awesome week! Hopefully, your Christmas shopping is done so you can relax heading into Christmas :)
With love and wellness,
Whitney (soon to be Decker)
When we think of achieving our goals, we picture a straight path from A to B. We set our goals we'd like to achieve, we go about reaching those goals, and we think it's going to be this easy, straight path.
I'm sorry to tell you that it most definitely will not EVER be like that! It'll be more like a squiggly line that may or may not loop back around a couple times. There will almost always be set backs or detours, but that doesn't mean we should stop moving forward!
Keep reaching for your goals. Keep moving forward, even if you occasionally loop back around.
I have a perfect example of this.
In June, I owed $4,100 on my credit card. I had no idea how I was going to pay it off. In fact, I was so incredibly stressed over it that I applied for several jobs so I could pick up extra work in my down time. I went to several interviews, stressed myself out over each and every one of them, and never heard a darn thing back. I even applied for Uber and Lyft, but then never followed through with actually driving anyone.
But darn if I didn't set the goal to have it paid off by November 3rd, as that's when my zero percent interest ended. And I don't know about you, but I don't like paying any more than I have to when it comes to extra interest payment!
Once again, I had NO idea how it was going to happen, but I set the goal. I announced it to the world and I let it go.
Over the next few months, I had several opportunities to pick up extra classes at the gym, Rodan+Fields really picked up, my health coaching business picked up, plus I added personal training to the mix. And wouldn't you know, I paid off my credit card LAST WEEK.
Yes, I know...I'm a month behind my goal of November 3rd, but that didn't stop me from moving forward and continuing on with achieving my goal. And looking back, I still have no idea how I paid it off so quickly, but every little bit of extra money I had went to that card.
Now, I should caveat this by saying I hate carrying a balance on my credit card. I'm a firm believer in that if you can't pay for something with cash or immediately pay off your card the following month, that you shouldn't be putting it on a credit card and carrying a balance. So the fact that I had a balance really irked me, on a daily basis, no less.
But paying off that card was a huge check for me. When I set the goal and I set my mind to it, I will stop at nothing to achieve that goal. Even when I had set backs or needed the extra money for something else, I kept my eye on the prize.
And this, my friends, is what you need to do for all your goals. Don't give up just because something gets in the way of your "easy, smooth path." Because those setbacks and loops is what makes the WIN of achieving your goals that much better!
Remember that as we head into 2019. Set amazing goals and then smash the crap outta them! I can't wait to hear about all the goals you'll set and then go on to achieve!
Have a beautiful week! And set some awesome goals!
With love and wellness,
In the moment when something bad is happening, it's hard to believe that this is true. All you can see is the door that has closed. That what you wanted is now all of a sudden gone.
I certainly felt this way last year. I'd waited so long to get married...I'd had my fair share of frogs. I thought I'd found what I'd been looking for. And when it was all taken away, I didn't know which way was up. I couldn't believe what was happening. I couldn't believe the door had been slammed shut with such force!
And truthfully, I didn't think I'd ever find love again. I didn't know if I'd be able to open my heart and be able to trust anyone ever again.
I swore off guys at the beginning of this year. I had decided I was going to take the summer for myself. I didn't want my heart broken again. I didn't think I'd be able to survive it.
And then I met Nick.
It started innocently enough. We had a competition at CrossFit Cafe and I was there as the head judge, per the normal. It was a cold morning and I was bundled up, also per the normal.
I was sitting in the office as people were checking in (that's where athletes came in to grab their bags after officially checking in). I remember looking up as this guy walked in with a drink in his hand...I don't remember what it was, but I remember asking, "Where's mine?" Yep. Definitely flirting.
I had no idea who he was and didn't even know his name until later (I'll admit that I looked at the clipboard of his first event to figure out his name...so thankful for being the head judge).
We caught each other's eye throughout the day, and had a couple brief conversations about the competition. All I know is that I looked for him throughout the day (and I'm pretty sure he was looking for me too...I mean, you can just tell). And smiled whenever I saw him.
The day ended and we hadn't exchanged numbers or anything like that. So I just chalked it up to a fun day of flirting with a good looking guy.
On to the next day...I posted about Gizmo running errands with me and being passed out in the back seat (what he does best). And wouldn't you know Nick commented on that post. We ended up chatting on Instagram, which quickly progressed to exchanging numbers and texting. All. Day. Long.
He was sweet...our first date was at a Barnes & Noble. He was looking for a specific book and I'm a book junkie, so I loved it. We went back to my apartment and spent several hours talking and getting to know one another. It was, and still is, one of my favorite nights.
Needless to say, he earned my trust over a period of time and showed me he meant 100% of what he said. He showed me that it was capable to love and to trust again. That opening my heart wasn't going to hurt.
I am so thankful for the closed doors that have led me to where I am. It didn't feel like it at the time, but it has led me to some of the most amazing and precious moments of my life.
And now, I get to marry my best friend. A man I didn't know existed. Who loves me and cares for me in a way I didn't know was possible. He puts up with so much of my crap (and believe me, I have a lot of crap), and he does it lovingly and willingly, every single day.
So just know that when a door closes, it doesn't mean life is over. It simply means God has something so much better in store for you. So be patient and know that the right doors will open soon enough for you.
I hope you all have a beautiful week and enjoy the first week of December. Christmas is right around the corner, so hopefully you've started your shopping! I certainly haven't, LOL.
With love and wellness,