I'm here to tell you that not everyone is confident in their abilities right from the get-go. Not everyone believes in themselves or what they can do when they first start out.
I'm also here to tell you that everyone, literally everyone, starts as a beginner. They've tried something. And they failed. And they tried again. And they failed again, only better.
If you don't first try something, you will never learn how to do it and you will never grow your confidence. And if you don't fail at the things you try, you will never find the most effective way to do whatever it is you're trying.
So first thing is to TRY. If you never try, you will never succeed. If you never try, you will never know what you're capable of. And that would be a tragedy. I can promise you that you're capable of great things!
I have lots of firsts where I wasn't confident in what I was doing, at all. When I first started college. When I first started my government job. When I first started CrossFit. When I first started my personal business. When I first became a homeowner.
Literally everything we do is a first. There isn't anything we start out doing as experts.
Think about your life. Think about all your firsts. All the things you've accomplished by simply TRYING. Think of the confidence you've gained through those experiences.
Yes, many of those experiences may have been ones we didn't choose. Or they were just "rights of passage" into adulthood (college, first job, first home, etc). But how would you know you could accomplish those things if you hadn't first tried? And think of the confidence you gained with each experience.
I'll be the first to tell you I was terrified walking into a CrossFit gym. I didn't know what I was getting into and I was scared to make a fool out of myself. I'd never really done much work with a barbell before CrossFit and a pull-up? Ha!
But the beautiful part about CrossFit is everything is scaleable! And I gained confidence every time I went back for another workout. I learned and I grew every single time I walked back into the gym. I know things about myself and my body's ability that I never would've known had I not walked into a CrossFit gym.
And boy, was I terrified to start my own business. Talk about getting out of my comfort zone! I left a very secure, cushiony job with the government to pursue my own passions. To be my own boss. And it's 100% been a learning curve from day one. I've tried and failed many times over. But I've not given up! I love what I do and love learning the BEST way to do it!
What about you? What have you tried (and failed)? What are you scared to try? Comment below with yours!
I hope you all have a beautiful week! And try something new this week! Yes, even if you fail!
With love and wellness (and hopes for big growth!!),
I came across this post yesterday on Instagram and knew I had to share it. Thank you to @competeeveryday for the inspiration and the reminder!
Nothing you do in life, whether it's business, nutrition, or fitness, is easy. Nothing happens overnight (unless it's a 1 in a million opportunity that you happen across). And it certainly isn't without struggle. But no matter what, it's 100% worth it.
The beautiful part of it is that who you become in the process is amazing. Limitless. Confident. Bold. Unstoppable.
And that, my friends, I wouldn't change for the world. For you or for me!
We all want a quick fix. Something that will come easily to us. That we can blink or snap our fingers and poof! We have whatever it is we want.
Nobody wants to do the work anymore. Nobody wants to put in the effort.
It's sad really. We've become so accustomed to being able to get what we want with a push of a button or a click of a button on the internet. We want that quick fix...the pill to help us lose weight without doing anything but swallowing a pill, the waist band that you wrap around your waist to tone up without having to go to the gym, the get rich quick scheme to earn money overnight without any work!
We don't want to do the work. We don't want to put in the work. We don't want to make the effort.
When did that change? When did we become the society full of people who want life handed to us? The society that doesn't want to work for what we have?
I can tell you that nothing worth having comes easy. It isn't without work and effort. Know what you want. Set goals. Do the work to achieve those goals. And you will literally be astounded by what you can accomplish.
Don't sit back and wish your life were different. Make it happen.
Make. It. Happen.
Do the work. Make the effort. Achieve your goals. Live the life you've always dreamed of.
Find the motivation to make it happen. And do it!!
Have a beautiful week! And take some steps forward towards achieving your goals!
With love and wellness,
We are all human (I know....shocking revelation, right?). With that being said, we all make mistakes. Every single one of us.
Yep - despite how perfect we think we are. Despite how we think we know everything. That we couldn't possibly ever be wrong or make mistakes. We all do.
The sad truth is that we all know this, but we tend to forget it when it comes to others. We forgive ourselves, but we find it so hard to forgive others. We often continue throwing those mistakes in other people's faces. We think it makes them bad. Or wrong. Or that we are somehow better than them.
But the reality is none of us are free from making mistakes. From making bad choices in life. It's what makes life interesting! Even if we wish we could go back and change those choices!
I know I've made some choices that I regret, that I wish I could change. But when I stop to think about where I am in life, I realize making those choices is what led me to exactly where I am. And I wouldn't change that for anything.
Y'all...life is a series of choices. Some choices we make will be really great ones. And some choices we make will be some not so great ones. It doesn't make us bad or awful...it simply makes us human.
None of us have all the answers. None of us have a crystal ball to tell us exactly what we should (or shouldn't) do. Wouldn't life be so much more BORING if that were the case?!
I know I don't have all the answers. And sometimes that causes me a lot of anxiety and wondering what if. But I also know that it's okay to not have the answers. To trust in God (or a higher power, whatever you believe in)...that God has all the answers. And He knows way better than I do.
And truthfully, no matter the mistakes we've made, God has always forgiven me. And He always will. He doesn't hold grudges and He doesn't judge me.
So why do we do it to others? Why do we hold things against people? People make mistakes. It happens. Who are we to judge or hold it against them? Because we aren't perfect either. We make mistakes too.
Remember, making mistakes doesn't make us or them bad people. It makes us all human.
Let's stop holding grudges and judging and thinking we are better than everyone else. Let's have grace and forgiveness and love for others. Let's remember that we are all human and that we are all trying our best, every day.
I love y'all. And thank you for not holding my mistakes against me.
Have a beautiful week. Be kind to one another.
With love and wellness,
Life is a series of comparisons. But it shouldn't be.
We look at our neighbors, our friends, our family, our peers. We wonder if we aren't doing enough, why we don't have more, why our lives look different than theirs.
We want to keep up with the Jones'. With what's posted on social media.
We drive ourselves into the ground trying to keep up. We spend money we don't have to buy things we don't need so we look like we're doing well. Or that we have more. Whatever it is we're trying to "prove."
I know I've been guilty of this. Of playing the comparison game. Of wondering why I wasn't further along. Of wondering if I was falling behind. Of trying to compete with other people.
The thing about this life is that we aren't in competition with one another. We shouldn't compare ourselves to anyone else, because guess what? We. Are. All. Different.
We live different lives. We are at different places in our lives. We are different people. With different things going on in our lives.
We can't compare our lives to our peers or family or friends. We can't compare our lives to what we see on social media. We can't compare, period.
Because the truth is... We have no idea what's going on behind the scenes in other people's lives. Ever.
We live in a crazy world, y'all. Instead of competing with one another, we should be helping each other out. We should be collaborating with each other. Cooperating. Not competing.
Let's look out for one another. Not make it harder on each other.
So this week, starting today, remember that you aren't in competition with anyone else. There's no reason to be. We are all fighting our own battles daily.
Let's help one another out. Remember there is enough abundance out there for all of us. We are all enough. Be authentic to yourself. Be authentic in your life. Be authentic, period.
Don't try to keep up with anyone else...don't bury yourself in debt trying to prove anything to anyone else.
Today and always, you are enough. You have enough.
I love y'all. Have a beautiful week.
With love and wellness,
We had a big week this past week! We got home from vacation and visiting family, which went by entirely too fast! A week at work never seems to fly by like a week on vacation. It felt like the entire trip went by in a blink of an eye. We had an amazing time and made some amazing memories!
But, we came back to finalize our first big purchase as husband and wife! Nick and I bought a house on Friday!!! We have our own place! Our own space! It doesn't quite seem real yet, but I know as we move our stuff in and we make it our home, that it will become OUR home!
In the same breath, we started building our garage gym! It's been a dream of ours to have our own space and to really create an at-home gym where we can do personal training and help people achieve all their goals! It's fitting that the first thing we moved into our new home was gym equipment.
Check and check on achieving two big goals of ours! Or at least taking the steps to achieve those goals.
Also, I found out I passed my CrossFit Level 2 Seminar course and am now a CrossFit Level 2 Trainer! It was an awesome course and I learned a lot about myself as a coach. I loved the entire weekend and while I thought the test was insanely hard, it was a great experience. I loved learning more and honing my skills! And I'm ready to continue learning and growing!
Annnnnddddd, I even had one more surprise when I got home! Whew! It was a week to remember!
Anyhow - I found out I am now the General Manager at CrossFit Cafe!! It was a pleasant surprise to come home to. And it was definitely a surprise!
So...new homeowners. New garage gym. New gym manager. New CF-L2.
We've been working our butts off to achieve our goals and it is finally falling into place. And that's not to say we don't have a ways to go and more work to do, but I'm excited for where life is taking us and for all the changes that are happening!
Forward progress, baby! It may not happen overnight and you may have failures and setbacks, but keep plugging away. Keep your eye on the prize and keep moving forward. Keep taking steps to achieve your goals! But be flexible! Know that you won't always go from Point A to Point B in a straight line. It generally looks like a crazy zig zag, but it's 100% worth it.
Have a beautiful week! I love y'all!
With love and wellness,