I used to spend my life thinking "what if." I would paralyze myself with questions about what would happen if I did X, Y, or Z. I mean, fill in the blank and I would wonder "what if" about it.
What if I left my government job to start my own business and I failed? What if I started my own business and I couldn't help people? What if I started CrossFit and I failed at it? What if I became certified as a CrossFit trainer and I sucked?
Seriously... All. The. Things.
I don't know when I stopped living in the "what if" world, but I knew I couldn't stay in that world. I could what if the heck out of anything! And talk myself right on out of it.
And that, my friends, is no way to live.
How many things have you stopped yourself from doing because you were worried about the "what ifs?" How many things have you talked yourself out of?
In this world, there are so many choices you can make. And I don't know about you, but I'd rather have an "oops" and a lesson learned than a what if. I don't want to look back on my life and wonder what would have happened had I made different choices. Had I been braver. Had I stopped second guessing myself.
This doesn't make things less scary. Believe me, I make a lot of choices that scare the crap out of me. But I know this is the only way I will grow and learn and have amazing experiences.
Letting Nick into my life was scary, especially after everything I've been through. Choosing to start my own business was scary. Choosing to leave the federal government was terrifying. And Nick and I are in the process of making yet another choice that is equally as terrifying! But it's also so darn exciting!
There are so many things that I have done that I am thankful I didn't let fear stop me from doing. I would be in such a different place had I continued living in the "what if" world.
Truthfully, the things that terrify us the most are generally the things we should be doing!
So let's make the end of 2018 the best few months ever! Don't let the "what ifs" stop you from living your best life!
Let's try something new... when you are in the midst of making a decision, count backwards 5-4-3-2-1 and then ACT! Don't overthink it. Don't question whether you're making the right choice. Just DO!
I hope you all have a beautiful week! And make the best choices for YOU!
With love and wellness,
I realized last week that I've had my blog and website for a couple years now and that some people may not know who I am. Either from when I first started my blog to who I am today.
And this past year has fundamentally changed who I am.
So allow me to re-introduce myself!
I am Whitney (soon not to be) Penny. I am a health coach. A CrossFit coach. A personal trainer. A skincare consultant. An essential oils consultant. A business owner. A pug mom. A step-mom. A soon to be divorcee. A girlfriend. A daughter. A sister. A friend. A confidante.
I am passionate. Emotional. Loving. Caring. Trusting. I am human. And I hurt. And I question what I'm doing and where I'm going in my life.
I don't have it all together. I wish I did, but I don't. I make silly mistakes and poor choices. Again, I am human.
We see what we want on social media...we're envious of what other people have or what they are doing. And we wish we could have what they have...be who they are...do what they're doing.
But I can 100% promise you what you see on social media isn't all there is to it.
We don't post the bad stuff. We don't post the bad days.
You see snapshots...of the good things. The good memories. The good times. And that's the part we are envious of.
But let me tell you a little more about who I am today...very blunt and overly honest. And I don't have a lot of time for BS. Very little time for it, actually.
Last June, I had been married for 8 months. I was still a newlywed, for all intents and purposes. And while I'm sure it looked like everything was fine from the outside looking in, I questioned my marriage. I was feeling off...like I shouldn't be feeling that already. We had a lifetime to go, for goodness sake!
And on June 2, my husband called me to tell me he had been arrested. In the blink of an eye, my life was completely flipped upside down. And all the feelings I'd been having finally came to light. I came to realize exactly why I'd been feeling the way I had been.
I was no longer a happy wife with 3 bonus kids. I was a crazy woman questioning whether I was going to stay with my husband and support him through everything that had happened.
From June to September, my life was in turmoil. Figuring out how to pay bills. Who to trust. Whether I should believe my husband and what he was telling me. Life was anything but easy.
And in September, I had my light bulb moment. Everything clicked and I knew exactly what I had to do for me. It wasn't staying and being the supportive, Christian wife, like I originally thought it was. I needed to be ME. To find ME again.
Because through the whole process, I lost who I was.
Since then, I've struggled to find my way back. To get back to who I was. And I realized a couple months ago that I will never be that person again. I'm not that person anymore. And never will be again.
And truth be told, I like who I am now so much better than who I was.
I love being a strong woman who made it through something unthinkable. I love looking back and realizing that I survived. And I've made my own path. I've gotten back to my health coaching and have started personal training, and I'm absolutely loving it!
I'm also relaunching my skincare business! My company just announced three new products and I CAN. NOT. WAIT. to get my hands on them! This business has taken a backseat in the last few months as I've struggled to find my new way, but I am ready to be back with a vengeance!
My businesses, all of them, are truly my passion! I love helping others. I love helping them find their best selves...achieve their best skincare...achieve all their goals.
I'm ready for this new chapter. To close this last chapter and be done with it! Keep an eye out for my re-launch party! Cuz it's going to be epic!!
I hope y'all have an awesome week! And hit me up if you need help achieving any of your goals! And I love referrals too! Y'all are amazing for your continued love and support :)
With love and wellness,
I don't understand why it's so hard for people to understand that not every relationship is created equal.
Okay - maybe that's not true. It took me a long time to understand it. I would have a relationship end and then question how that person could move on so quickly or have a much better relationship with the next person. I couldn't understand why I wasn't good enough (read my last week's blog post about that topic!).
And now...well, now I know each relationship teaches us something. They either nurture a strength or a weakness within us. And hopefully, if/when each relationship ends, you learn something from it. You take something positive away from it. To make your next relationship better.
Otherwise, you continue to have the same type of relationships and experiences until you finally learn whatever lesson there is to learn! Believe me, I've been there...don't fall into that trap! It just leads to heartache and a lot of lost time.
This has been something that's been on my mind for awhile now as I continue seeing posts on social media about people's exes and slights on their new boyfriends/girlfriends.
I mean, I get it. People get hurt and feelings are hurt and we then hold grudges. I truly get it.
But here's the thing. Just because someone doesn't work out in a relationship with you, doesn't mean that person can't ever be in a healthy relationship with someone else.
Not everyone is meant to be together.
And yes...it really is that simple.
But we like to make it hard. We like to live in the past instead of letting it go. We like to hold on to the things that we feel spited us. I mean...we are human!
Find someone that makes you happy. That lights up when they see you. That you look forward to seeing and talking to every day.
Don't settle. Don't "put up with" things that rub you the wrong way.
But goodness...let it go if it doesn't work out. Quit holding onto grudges. Quit stalking their social media and making posts about it.
Learn something from your previous relationships. Learn something and then let it go.
I can look back at every single one of my past relationships and see exactly why they didn't work out. I couldn't at the time and it was heartbreaking, but I thank God now that they didn't.
Let me repeat it again, because I think it's important to say again...not everyone is meant to be together. People are brought together to teach each other lessons. And that doesn't mean it's meant to last forever.
People are brought into your life for a reason, a season, a blessing, or a lesson.
Take whatever it is from those relationships and move on. More important, try to take the positives from those relationships. Grow from them. Be a better version of you going into your next relationship.
And don't hold onto grudges...don't point fingers, because it takes two. There's always a reason why it doesn't work out (or multiple reasons). And it typically involves both people. Let it be...no sense dwelling on the past and holding on to the negativity of it.
I promise...letting it go will make you so much happier! Focus on the lessons from it, be the bigger person, and move on as a better version of you!
I hope y'all have an awesome week. And be safe if Florence is heading your way!
With love and wellness,
Let me repeat it once again.
You. Are. Enough.
I know that I have gone through life thinking I wasn't enough. I wasn't good enough. Pretty enough. Smart enough. Tall enough. Skinny enough. Strong enough. [Fill in the blank] enough.
And I also know that so many others have gone through life thinking the exact same thing.
Where does this come from? Why do we go through life thinking we aren't enough?
We play the comparison game. We look at what everyone else has or does or looks like and we think we have to measure up. And when we don't, we get these thoughts that we aren't enough.
Let me just tell you...you are enough. Exactly as you are.
And if you aren't enough or worse, you're too much for others, then they aren't your people!
It took me entirely too long to be okay with who I am. I am quirky. Emotional. Caring and giving (almost too a fault). Trusting (again, almost to a fault). I have my own way of thinking and doing things...and that's okay! It doesn't make me any better or any worse than anyone else. And it doesn't make me too much or not enough!
I love who I am. And I don't apologize anymore for who I am. And I don't put myself down for not "being" enough...of whatever it is I'm trying to do.
I know that I am always growing and learning. And I'm okay saying "I don't know" if I don't have the answer. And I'm even more okay learning all the things I don't know...or want to know. I like proving myself wrong, as well as proving others wrong. And I like being ENOUGH for everything!
That's the beauty of this life. We are the only thing standing in our way. We are the only thing thinking we aren't enough. Or at least we are the only ones that matter who are thinking that.
Start believing in yourself. Remove those negative thoughts. Remove those "not enough" thoughts.
Because regardless of what is going on in this life, you are enough. You are beautifully, wonderfully enough!
And if you need the reminder, hit me up. I will gladly tell you that, again and again.
Have a beautiful week! And remember...You. Are. Enough.
With love and wellness,