If you spend your life worrying what others think, you will live a life that isn't yours.
You will make decisions based on what others think, which ultimately means you will live a life that doesn't make you happy. You'll make choices that aren't 100% yours. And what, my friends, kind of life is that?
I feared what others would think when I quit my government job. I mean, I worked for the federal government for almost 12 years (or was it 13?). And it was a good job, a secure job, a very well paying with a good retirement job.
But I was miserable. MISERABLE. I hated going to work. I hated getting up every morning and driving into a job I disliked. I found every excuse in the book to work away from the office and I took leave as much as I could afford to.
I started on my natural health journey prior to leaving the government, more so for myself and all the issues I was having. But as I continued on to becoming a health coach, I knew it was so much more than just helping myself. I wanted to help my family and friends and as many people as I could become the best version of themselves. It truly made me happy to see my clients reaching their goals and I knew I wanted to continue on that journey.
So I did what most people do in that situation. I fretted and worried and I asked literally everyone around me what their thoughts were. If they thought me leaving the government was silly. If I was making the wrong decision. You know, if me living MY life made sense to them.
When you look at something in that light, do you see how silly it is? How could I worry so much about what others thought when they weren't living my life? When they weren't feeling how unhappy I was? When they didn't pay my bills?
So I did something crazy. I walked away from my cushy government job. I started my own business. I went against what everyone else thought I should do in my life.
And I'll admit. I wasn't the most successful when I first started. I had grand ideas that everything would work exactly as I thought it would. That it would magically just happen for me. You know, without work. Duh.
Yes, it didn't magically happen for me. But, it led me to exactly where I needed to be. I went on an amazing adventure in finding myself, finding my business sense, and landing exactly where life was supposed to take me.
And I'm living a life I want to live. I'm living a life I've created. I'm living a life free of worry about what others think of me!
So live YOUR life. Live YOUR best life. Make decisions for YOU.
It takes courage. And it sometimes takes going against the grain. But I can promise that it is 100% worth it.
Have a beautiful, courageous week. Make the best decisions for YOU this week (and every week).
With love and wellness,
Hello, my name is Whitney, and I'm a Sugar Addict. Or maybe a recovering sugar addict. Are you ever really recovering though? Because it's a slippery slope!
I was hopelessly addicted to sugar. I used to pretend that because I was eating "organic" sugar or the "healthy" alternatives, that it was okay. That my body could differentiate between the real sugar and the "good for me" sugar.
Every night after dinner, I would make a "healthy" dessert using one of the healthier sugar alternatives. I became really good at making a brownie in a mug in the microwave. I could literally make it without a recipe. It was bad.
I suffered from hormonal issues, acne, sleep issues, mood swings. You name it and I suffered from it. But I had NO IDEA what my issue was.
Yes, I was naive. I knew what I ate affected me, but I didn't attribute it to sugar. I was eating "healthy" sugar, so how could that possibly have been causing my hormonal issues?
I told you I was naive.
The real kicker for me...the eye opener, I suppose...is the morning after I came out of my knee surgery. I was having the worst attack. My blood sugar was so low that I was seeing black and sweating and the nurses wouldn't give me anything to eat. Because to them, my blood sugar was registering insanely high. I had to basically beg them for food.
And you want to know why? Ask me what I had for dinner the night before my surgery. Ugh.
It pains me to think about now, but I had made a plate full of "healthy," vegan chocolate almond butter cups. Think Reese's peanut butter cups, but they were healthy, dairy free, gluten free. So they HAD to be good! And let me tell you...I ate EVERY. SINGLE. ONE. All of them. That's what I had for dinner the night before my surgery.
I can't even believe I did that. I shake my head at myself.
But, it helped me see how hopelessly addicted I was to sugar. I started doing a lot of research on sugar and how it affects us.
Did you know that sugar has the same affect on your brain as cocaine? Yep. Just think about that one for a second.
So my first step after all my research was to cold turkey cut myself off from sugar. I did a 21-day sugar detox and within the first week, my face had cleared up! Like, no more hormonal acne. That I had suffered with FOR YEARS.
I was shocked. Completely and utterly shocked.
I realized that I relied entirely too much on sugar. It was a crutch for me. And it was a huge change for me to remove it from my life.
Now, don't get me wrong, I still enjoy sugary treats every now and again. But I don't rely on them every night after dinner. I don't trick myself into believing that the "healthy" sugar alternatives aren't harming my body. I enjoy it every now and again, but don't over do it. I learned my lesson the hard way.
Because you better believe that the "healthy" sugar alternatives affect your body just as much as real sugar. Your body doesn't differentiate between the two. Your body still reacts to the sugar, healthy or not. And the resulting sugar highs and then sugar lows affects your hormones, 100%.
So if you constantly crave sugar or have hormonal issues or acne, reach out. It takes discipline to go through a sugar detox, especially on your own. I'd love to help you break your addiction and take back control of your diet and your hormones!
Have a beautiful week!
With love and wellness,
So my life has had a running theme this past week. I've dreamed about it, it keeps popping up in motivational quotes, and I keep seeing it on social media (gotta love those scroll happy moments).
The picture above is one that popped up for me after my dream. It's been all about change lately. And yes, it started with a super weird dream. I was in a large group of mostly women...not sure where exactly I was or what I was doing, but I kept hearing people say, "Change one thing and everything can change." I mean, it was like that phrase was on repeat. I don't often remember my dreams, but that one stuck with me. And I can still remember it perfectly.
So I talked to my husband about it, because it was resonating with me and wouldn't stop playing in my head. I couldn't help but think that it meant something more than just being a dream.
For you see, I've felt a little off the past few weeks, maybe even months. Like something has been missing or wrong or something... I don't even know how to explain it. I've just felt off kilter. And again, I had this feeling my dream meant more.
Later in the same day after my dream, the above picture popped up from one of my motivational apps. It was like another huge sign...like I needed to make a change. But what? What change am I supposed to make? And is it me? My husband? My family? I have no idea!
I mean, we already have a big change coming up. We are moving in a few weeks! Nick and I close on our house at the end of this month and move the following week. It's a huge change for both of us, and we are so insanely excited. But I don't think that's the something that needs to change. I mean, it's already happening.
So what else could it possibly be? Work related? Business? Personal? You guys, the questions are killing me! I wish I knew!
We've also been working on building Nick's business with SandMeDown. That's been another huge change for us....but again, already in the works, so I don't think that's it.
Honestly, I think it's something to do with my business. I know I have a ton on my plate with coaching and personal training and health coaching and skincare, and somewhere in there, something has to give. I try to take something off my plate and feel like I have two or three other things added.
So my mission now is to figure it out. Make a (or some) changes to what I'm doing. Because I know that one change can truly change my life. Our lives. Because that's all it takes! One change.
I'm excited to have a little more pep in my step about where things are going. I'm looking forward to our new place, a little more organization, and having all my stuff unpacked and in it's own place! Countdown is on :)
Have a beautiful week! And if you're looking for a change, I hope you find the motivation to figure it out and make it!
With love and wellness,
I came across this picture last week and wish I'd seen it earlier in my life. So I definitely knew I wanted to share it with you all. These are 9 important life lessons, but they certainly aren't the only important ones.
So here we go...
1) It's good to fail. Absolutely, 100% okay to fail. Oh, how I would have tried so many things if I knew this, or at least believed it, when I was younger. I was terrified of failure. When people asked me what I was afraid of, I answered, "Failure." I didn't want to fail at anything, or look like an idiot, or try something and know I couldn't do or complete it.
But that, my friends, is silly. Failure means you are TRYING. It means you are living. It means you are giving it a shot! If you never try new things, you will never know what you are capable of. And I don't know about you, but I could no longer live my life like that. I couldn't play small, wondering what if anymore. I couldn't be afraid of failure. And now? Well, now I look at failure as a way of learning what doesn't work. And I know that I can try other things to reach my goals.
So don't be afraid of failure. Don't be afraid to try new things. Don't be afraid to go all in. You'll never know what you're missing if you don't!
2) It doesn't matter what other people think about you or your situation or what you're doing. I spent SO MUCH OF MY LIFE worrying about what other people thought of me and my choices. And here's what I can tell you...other people don't care about your life. I know that sounds harsh, but we, as humans, are more focused on our own lives than other people's. We worry so much what other people think about us, but other people are more worried about themselves and what people think about them! It's a vicious cycle!
So the next time you find yourself worrying about what other people think, stop and ask yourself, "Do those people's opinions pay your bills?" If the answer is no (and it will be, I promise), then who cares what they think? You do you! And be proud to be you!
3) Hard work always pays off. Always. Put your head down, put the work in, and it will pay off. It may not be how you think it should look, but it will pay off. Don't give up. Never quit. And keep moving forward.
4) You NEED to learn how to say NO. Do not, for whatever reason, become a "yes" man. The only thing that will do is make you extremely unhappy. You'll run yourself into the ground and you will be miserable.
How, you ask, do I know? Oh...well, that's simple. I was a "yes" (wo)man. I felt bad saying no. I didn't want to hurt people's feelings. I didn't want to let anyone down. But the end result is that I let myself down. I hurt my own feelings. I ran myself into the ground trying to please everyone else. I was neglecting myself.
The lesson here is that it's okay to say no. It's okay to put yourself first. Don't run yourself into the ground trying to please everyone else. Here's a helpful tip: If it's not a "Hell yes," it's a NO!
5) As much as we all love money, it won't necessarily make you happier. Yes, it can buy you things and pay your bills, but that doesn't necessarily mean you will be happier. Once again, you're asking how I know this. And once again, the answer is easy. I've been there before. I had a very nice, very high paying government job. But I was miserable. I dreaded going to work every day. I found every excuse to miss work, from calling in sick to taking vacation days, even when I wasn't going anywhere. And ever since I quit said job, I haven't made the same amount of money, but my happiness and joy have been much higher. I've been much happier and healthier and I don't dread getting up and going to work every day. I'd call that a win-win.
6) Communication is key for a successful relationship, whether that's a friendship or a romantic partnership or even a family relationship. You have to be able to communicate, openly and freely. If you're unhappy, don't hold onto it. If you aren't able to speak openly about it with your friend, partner, family member, then you just end up holding onto it and resenting that person. It will end up blowing up in your face, and theirs too. Learn how to express yourself, in a healthy way, of course. I can promise that open communication will be much better for you than holding it in, holding a grudge, and hoping that it just goes away on its own. Too many people lose friendships, relationships due to a lack of communication. Don't let it happen to you.
7) You need to be flexible. Don't hold on so tight to your beliefs and ways that you miss out on some amazing opportunities. I was guilty of this. I was so rigid in how I wanted to make things happen in my life. I held on to my beliefs in how my life "should" look for far too long. And while it's never too late to restart or change your beliefs or your life, I spent a lot of years unhappy with where I was before deciding to make some much needed changes. I finally learned to be flexible and to go more with the flow. To see where God led me. Where life took me. And while I certainly couldn't have imagined where I'd go or what I'd experience, I'm happy for everything I've been through. I wouldn't be who I am today without it. Learn to let go a little bit. Enjoy the ride. See where life takes you.
8) Stay. Away. From. Toxic. People. Oh my goodness. This one is huge! If you spend time with someone and leave feeling drained or upset or uptight, chances are they are toxic to you. I had a friend many years ago that left me feeling this way. I felt as if I was always giving of myself and was never good enough for this person. God forbid if I had my own issues or things going on in my life. It was always about them and I felt drained and uptight following every encounter. It was hard to break myself away from the friendship, but it was 100% what I needed. I had to learn to let go of someone I thought was a friend. And I've been better for it.
9) Giving will make you happier. Unfortunately, this world is all about take, take, take. We're all about what we can get from this world instead of what we can give. But giving, of yourself, your time, your resources, will make you happier. I like to volunteer, but I don't do it as often as I should. I'll admit that I don't make the time for it. I wish that wasn't the case, but it is. Recently, Nick and I volunteered at the Food Bank through his work. I'm very happy we did it, because it was truly a humbling experience. We put together boxes of foods for families to come in and pick up every week. For the problems Nick and I think we have, we aren't worried about feeding ourselves. We have a roof over our head, a bed to sleep in, and food on our table. It humbled me and made me happy to be able to help, even if it was something so small. Now my goal is to volunteer more.
Again, there are additional life lessons, but these 9 are definitely ones I wish I'd learned when I was younger. I know we learn these valuable lessons as we grow older, but that doesn't mean you shouldn't know them now. Take them for what they're worth. Put them into practice the best way you can for your life.
I hope you all have a beautiful week. And take a little something away from this :)
With love and wellness,