So it's about that time...you know, the time that kids dread all summer long, but the parents secretly can NOT wait for!! Yup - you guessed it! It's back to school time!
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With love and wellness (and super delicious smoothie recipes),
We’ve all been there. I know I have been…I still struggle with it on occasion. The doubts. The negative thoughts. Not believing in yourself. Not valuing yourself…your time, your energy, or your knowledge. But let’s talk about why this is a horrible place to be! I’m going to share with you why it’s so important…so imperative to believe in yourself, to trust yourself, and to value yourself. Because when you don’t, it manifests in every other area of your life. And even worse, that’s what you put out into the world, so other people are going to have a hard time believing in you too. It really is a vicious cycle…one you need to stop, starting today!!
Have you been here? Does this sound familiar to you? Read on because I know one thing that can drastically change for you…change your mindset, change your life!
Believe in Yourself
When we continually talk negatively to ourselves, we start to believe it. We believe we can’t do things or aren’t good enough or will struggle with whatever we do. Let’s make it simple with an example. I’m a crossfitter (duh, LOL) and pretty much every day at the gym, I approach a barbell several times with the intent of picking it up in some way, shape, or form. When I walk up to the bar thinking I can’t do it or won’t be able to do it, more often than not, I fail at the lift. I get so frustrated with myself in these situations. But when I approach the bar thinking, “Heck yeah! I am going to lift this with ease. I’ve done it over and over again. I know I can!” It all changes. I know my abilities and I believe I can do it. That belief in myself is such a huge shift…in my mindset and the outcome of the lift (or anything else I put my mind to). We have to envision our success and believe we will be successful, and guess what? We are (more often than not) successful! Believe in yourself, believe in your abilities. Period.
Just as important as believing in yourself is trusting yourself. If you don’t trust your abilities, then you won’t believe in yourself…and what follows is, you guessed it, generally a complete disaster. Without that trust, everything in life becomes a struggle. We constantly doubt our decisions and our beliefs. We question whether what we’re doing is right. We look for outside approval to make ourselves feel better about our decisions. Does this sound familiar? You call your mom, dad, best friend and ask, “Did I do the right thing?” “What would you do in this situation?” “Am I making the right decision?” “I don’t know what to do! Tell me what you think.”
Now don’t get me wrong, it’s not a bad thing to talk about your decisions and seek advice. But if you find that you can’t (or won’t) make a decision without getting other people’s advice or opinions, then learning to trust yourself is so important! A good way to do this is to quiet your mind and learn to listen to your intuition. I’ve learned to do this through meditation. And the more you listen, the more you put your trust in your decisions and your abilities, the easier it becomes to “hear” your voice. Trust yourself, trust your abilities.
When we start to believe in and trust ourselves, we also then begin to value ourselves. When we value our thoughts, our beliefs, and our decisions, we can conquer the world! Okay, so maybe that’s a stretch, but it certainly feels that way! Even if we aren’t always successful in our decisions (because yes, we sometimes fail at things we try), it means we are trying!! If we never try, we will never be successful at anything!
So let’s change our mindset…believe in yourself and your abilities, always. Trust in yourself and your abilities, always. And value yourself and your decisions, always. There’s nothing more confident and attractive than someone who believes, trusts, and values him or herself!
I know, you’re thinking, come on – this is so much easier said than done. I get it…I’ve been there. But start small…think about something you do every day. Something that you do well. And put all your belief, all your trust, all your value into that. Is it making coffee? Is it writing a blog post? Do it with that, and then move on to the next thing, and the next thing, and the next thing. Listen to your thoughts and when you hear those common “I can’t” or “I’m never going to be able to…” thoughts, immediately change them! Think “I can…” or “I will…”
One of my favorite sayings that my mom used to tell me all the time is “Fake it til you make it.” The more you practice these thoughts, the more you will believe it. I promise. Be conscious of your thoughts and beliefs and change them to positive ones! It becomes easier and easier with practice. And even if you don’t believe them right way, keep changing them to positive ones. Fake it and one day, you’ll realize you actually do believe them! And you’ve made it!
Believe in yourself, trust in yourself, value yourself. You will see HUGE changes in your life when this shift in mindset occurs.
Have a fabulous week!! I believe in you! Now it's time for you to do the same!!
With love and wellness,
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Ever since writing my blog post last week about sex, I feel like it has literally been thrown in my face (and by it, I mean sex). Facebook posts, online articles, TV shows I watch, movies…you name it, I can guarantee there’s either been mention of it, some sort of innuendo, or some article about how to make it better (or the like). I mean, check out the picture below. They're lamps, for pete's sakes. But yup, they were made sexual. This has become the norm.
It has also become the norm for people to talk about sex, think about sex, have sex…outside of relationships, in relationships, with friends, with that one night stand you met at the bar. Sex. Is. Everywhere. And if you aren’t having sex, you are the weird one (seriously, when did it become so easy to take off our clothes and have sex (all while thinking there won't be any consequences)??)!
I felt it was necessary to write a second post about sex because my church’s sermon (Grace Bible Church...seriously, so good) this past Sunday was directly related to this topic. I felt like the sermon could have been written just for me. I found myself in tears for the last part of it, for you see, I totally understood it. It was as if I was finally understanding something inside of me, something I hadn’t understood for a long time.
What I finally realized is that we…no, I was allowing myself to be defined by my sexuality. If I didn’t have sex with a guy, he wouldn’t love me…or he wouldn’t stick around…or whatever I thought would happen. Because if he wasn’t getting it from me, he was out getting it from someone else…right?!
The sermon on Sunday drove the point home that our culture is so incredibly sexualized. Because of that, we are sexually confused. I was sexually confused…and so completely out of whack with how it’s supposed to be! Let’s just think about how often things we say are taken out of context because, heaven forbid, it sounds sexual. Let’s think about how many times “That’s what she said” has come out of our mouths (and I’ll admit, I’m incredibly guilty of using that one). Let’s think about the fact that the message we are told is that we are primarily sexual beings…and that we have to have sex to improve our relationships or to decrease stress or to sleep better (or whatever).
The truth is we are primarily children of God. We are created in God’s image with a purpose…one that is so much more than sex [outside of marriage]. Galatians 3:26-27 says, “So in Christ Jesus you are all children of God through faith, for all of you who were baptized into Christ have clothed yourselves with Christ.”
Here are two more things I learned from the sermon this past weekend: I am more than my sexuality, and I am so much more than being someone’s sex object. Ladies, YOU are more than your sexuality, and YOU are so much more than being someone’s sex object.
How many of us have been in a situation where you didn’t really want to have sex, but you ended up doing it because it was what was expected; i.e, the norm? We have to stop buying into the lies of our culture!
Ladies, it’s time we recognize that sex is not the secret to a good relationship…it’s time we stop letting men pressure us into having sex or making us believe that we have to have sex in order to have a good relationship. What happened to getting to know someone outside of the bedroom?? When did that become so much scarier than getting naked in front of someone??
The truth is that sex is a beautiful and powerful gift…it’s one meant to be shared between husband and wife. And this, according to the sermon on Sunday, is a small part of what it means to have a great marriage. 1 Corinthians 7:2-3 says, “But since sexual immorality is occurring, each man should have sexual relations with his own wife, and each woman with her own husband. The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband.”
Here are a few other verses that really called to me this week and drove home the point that I bought into society’s lies for far too long:
1 Corinthians 6:18-20 NIV
Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a person commits are outside the body, but whoever sins sexually, sins against their own body. Do you not know that your bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your bodies.
1 Thessalonians 4:3-8 NIV
It is God’s will that you should be sanctified: that you should avoid sexual immorality; that each of you should learn to control your own body in a way that is holy and honorable, not in passionate lust like the pagans, who do not know God; and that in this matter no one should wrong or take advantage of a brother or sister. The Lord will punish all those who commit such sins, as we told you and warned you before. For God did not call us to be impure, but to live a holy life. Therefore, anyone who rejects this instruction does not reject a human being but God, the very God who gives you his Holy Spirit.
It pains me to think how I’ve treated my body…how I’ve sinned against my own body, my temple. It pains me to know that God has watched me acting in this manner all these years…that I believed I was okay because I was a Christian…I believed in God, but I followed my own rules. In a series of realizations over the past few months, I’ve realized how completely wrong that belief has been.
Yes, I am a sinner. Yes, I have made poor choices. Yes, I have laid down with men in my life. But yes, I am forgiven. And I am still loved and cherished, because I have admitted that. I have faced my sins, professed my sins, come clean with God. And I’ve accepted Him back into my life and my heart.
I no longer view myself as a sexual object for men’s delight. One day, yes, I will be my husband’s delight, but that should be reserved solely for him. Will it be a difficult journey? Absolutely. Will it be one that is totally worth it? You better believe it.
Our teaching pastor, Eric Sanzone, said it best…the call to all of us is purity. The call is to walk in holiness…to be fulfilled by God. Because we are all God’s children.
Have a fabulous week. And know you are beautifully and wonderfully made!! And that you are not defined by your sexuality…you are so much more than that!
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With love and wellness,
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I’m about to get controversial…
So here goes…
Let’s talk about sex.
It’s everywhere. No matter where you go, what you’re watching, which social media outlet you’re on, sex is everywhere. You see images like the ones below.
Pick up any magazine (or read one online) and you see articles like “How to have a better orgasm” and “5 Tips to Give a Better Blowjob” or something along those lines. Seriously…it’s everywhere.
Now don’t get me wrong. Sex is not bad. Sex is, in fact, great. But the way we approach sex these days is awful. There is no more courting, no more dating, no more building a relationship based on anything other than sex. All you have to do these days is pick up your phone, send a quick text and bam, you have a booty call coming over in 20 minutes.
We say this is normal. We say it doesn’t bother us…that our feelings aren’t hurt or that there aren’t emotions involved. But let’s be real. Sex is emotional, especially for women.
What exactly does it take out of us as women when we give ourselves to men in this way? I’ll be really honest here (sorry mom, dad, granny)…I was one of these women. I thought having sex with men would keep them around…I wanted nothing more than the attention and affection and love that I thought it would bring.
And you know what I was left with? Emptiness. Heartache. Questioning my worth and my value. Sadness. Depression. Misunderstanding.
I vowed, every time, that I wouldn’t sleep with the next guy…that I would wait. And, big surprise, that never happened. I would get caught up in the moment…the guy would say and do all the right things, and the next thing I’d know, I wasn’t waiting.
After my most recent break-up, I did the “normal” thing…that is, I had sex with someone else…you know, that saying of “The best way to get over someone is by getting under someone new” (I hate this saying, btw). Except that wasn’t working for me…at all. I didn’t know what I needed to do, but I knew that I felt empty…and needed to do something different.
It was about this time I met an incredibly special woman who re-introduced me to God and what I was missing in my life. She invited me to the Hungry for Hope conference in Tennessee and I can’t even begin to explain the difference this conference made in my life. I think I cried more than I ever thought possible…I realized what I was looking for all along with these men was what God has always been trying to give me… Love. Value. Worth. To know that I am enough. Exactly the way I am.
I don’t need to compromise who I am or what I believe in for the sake of the love and approval and affection of a guy. I don't regret any of the choices I've made in my life. But, I do regret that it took me 33 years to figure this out.
I will admit though…I feel sorta like a hypocrite. For many years, I had no qualms about sex. It was part of a normal relationship. But here’s the truth about sex…it is super easy to take off your clothes and have sex with someone. It doesn’t involve anything other than an attraction to one another and the mutual desire.
However, what takes courage is letting your guard down…letting yourself be vulnerable…taking off your emotional attire, so to speak, and really letting someone get to know you. Building a relationship on the premise of who you are as opposed to how great the sex is.
Because take the sex away and what are you left with? I can’t tell you how many times I’ve had sex with a guy only to find out months later, time invested, and emotions involved, that the ONLY thing we had in common was the fact that we had great sex.
And as a woman, that is so emotionally taxing. We open ourselves up…our hearts, our emotions, our lives…only to realize it meant nothing. We were another conquest or the feelings weren’t reciprocated or the “booty call” turned into more (for you) but not for him.
Ladies, let me tell you something…this will drain you. This will cause you to doubt yourself…to question your value, your worth…to question whether you are “enough”…to wonder if something is wrong with you because these guys don’t stick around.
Does this sound like you? Have you felt this way? Do you question your value because of these guys?!
Because I’m here to tell you something… You. Are. Enough. Exactly the way you are. God loves you. Exactly the way you are. You are valuable and worthy and ENOUGH! And you don't need the attention and affection of a guy to prove that! Ephesians 1:4 says, “For he chose us in him before the creation of the world to be holy and blameless in his sight. In love.”
Stop chasing love and attention and affection from random guys. They will not fulfill your deepest desires. It took me far too long to recognize and believe this.
And know this…I stated above that sex wasn’t bad. And it’s not. But the bible states that sex is for married couples…in Hebrews 13:4, it says, “Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral.”
All I know is that I was sick and tired of feeling empty and devalued and disrespected and depressed. Because I am none of those things. And once I realized this and began to value and respect myself, my world changed. I love myself…God loves me. Period. The End.
If this resonates with you…if you can’t get beyond this strive for perfection in relationships (you know, being the “perfect” girl by putting out and being sexual before you’re ready), schedule a FREE health strategy session with me today! Don’t wait! I’d love to help you with this and any other health, nutrition, and lifestyle goals you may have. I want to help you become the happiest, healthiest YOU!!
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With love and wellness,
I know thoughts like these have gone through every single woman’s mind *at least* once in her life; but truthfully, these are probably thoughts that have gone through your mind over and over again, often sounding like a broken record on repeat.
You know how I know? Because I’ve had these thoughts…over and over again. I see pictures like the one above in magazines or on Facebook, Instagram, Pinterest (you name the social media and you’ve seen pictures) and those thoughts pop in my head. I see other women who look like that in the gym, walking down the street, at the mall, pretty much anywhere, and I think, “Dang, I wish I looked like that (or had her arms, legs, abs, boobs, etc).”
Are you guilty of this too? How often do you beat yourself up, put yourself down, long for some other body part to replace the one you hate? Has this become a daily habit that almost happens without thinking?
I’m going to let you in on a little secret. Every single woman out there – yes, Every. Single. One. – even the gorgeous one that you think is perfect, is insecure about some part of her body! She looks at you and thinks, “Oh my gosh, I wish I had her (fill in the blank)!” How crazy is that??
In magazines and on social media, we *only* post the absolute best pictures of ourselves; many of these are photo-shopped and air-brushed so the end product isn’t really what that woman looks like. We think that’s what we’re supposed to look like, so we buy all the expensive products that promise us the world – clear skin, smooth skin (i.e., no cellulite), six-pack abs, no love handles, no saddle bags! So instead of enjoying our lives, we are killing ourselves to reach this unrealistic dream of being someone other than ourselves! Or worse, trying to attain the unattainable - the *perfect* body!!
But what’s wrong with who we are, exactly as we are?? I know that I struggle with comparing myself and my body to the fitness models, as well as the everyday woman in my gym (there are some pretty bad a$$ women at my gym, FYI). But I also know that my body is different from everyone else’s. I may not *ever* be able to look like any of those women because it would be physically impossible for my body to do that!!
And you know what the real kicker is? My body may not be perfect, but it is perfect for me…it has carried me through a lot of mishaps, but it has also carried me through many more glorious times! My legs have carried me through more runs than I can count; my body has lifted more weight than I ever thought possible; and my arms have carried the most precious gifts of all – my nieces and nephews and godchildren.
For all you moms out there, your bodies have done the most glorious thing ever – you created and carried another life in your body!! How amazingly beautiful is that?! That is truly a miracle! And you should be thankful to your body for being able to do that!
I know it doesn’t happen overnight – believe me, it took me *years* to get to the point where I am comfortable in my skin and with my body – but you too can get to that point! The first step is to erase those negative thoughts in your mind. Stop talking to yourself so negatively and hatefully. Love your body for what it has done for you…what it can do for you…what it will continue doing for you. Talk to yourself with kindness and love!
Wake up and look in the mirror and say, “I love my legs. They have crossed the finish line of too many races to count!” Say, “Look at my beautiful arms! They have carried and nurtured beautiful babies (whether your own or someone else’s!).” Say, “Wow – look at my stomach. I carried my baby(ies) there…I grew another life in there!” Say, “Check out my butt! It is H-O-T!”
Another way to get more in tune with your body and what it can do for you is to start taking note of what your body does for you on a daily basis. And don’t leave any part of your body out! What have your hands done for you today? Mine are typing this message to you lovely ladies! What have your feet done for you today? Mine got me through a tough workout this morning (along with my legs). What has your back done for you? What about your toes? And your fingers?
One last way is to stop looking at other women and wishing you looked like them or had their boobs or their abs or their legs (whatever it is you want). Instead, look at other women and admire them. Compliment them. Build them up! Because in this crazy world, we all need a little help in building each other’s self-esteem and being the reason another woman smiles!
Think about it – isn’t it nice to be complimented? To know that someone else notices your efforts? Why wouldn’t you want to pass that along?? And believe me, you’d be amazed at how this will turn around on you! You’ll start noticing your own efforts and start complimenting yourself!
I promise you – you are *enough* exactly the way you are. You are beautiful, and your body has served you well time after time, and it will continue to do so. Every. Single. Day.
Our bodies are beautiful and amazing and are capable of so much more than we often give them credit for! Here are a few bible verses that help me when I’m battling some body insecurities.
Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as elaborate hairstyles and the wearing of gold jewelry or fine clothes. Rather, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight. 1 Peter 3:3-4
I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made;
your works are wonderful,
I know that full well. Psalm 139:14
For we are God’s handiwork, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do. Ephesians 2:10
But the Lord said to Samuel, “Do not look on his appearance or on the height of his stature, because I have rejected him. For the Lord sees not as man sees: man looks on the outward appearance, but the Lord looks on the heart.” 1 Samuel 16:7
Yes, I realize that how you view your body isn’t going to change overnight. But make one small change today so you can change this view over time. Love yourself. Love your body. Speak kindly to yourself and about yourself. What you tell yourself is what you believe, and what you believe is what you become. So why not tell yourself you are beautiful and wonderfully made and capable of anything you put your mind to? Tell yourself; believe it; become it. Because you already are!
Have a fabulous week. And know you are beautifully and wonderfully made and you are loved!!
With love and wellness (and lots of bumps and bruises and imperfections),