As a new business owner, I need to admit something. I read over and over again before I stepped out on my own that it would be hard. That there would be ups and downs.
And I believed it all. I didn't go into it lightly or thinking I was going to be a huge success in a few short months.
But after the first two months of incredible growth and success, having a down month hit me hard. I felt like a failure. I felt like I wasn't doing enough or like I made a mistake venturing out on my own.
Then I had to smack myself. This is everything I'd read and prepared myself for. I knew it wasn't going to be a walk in the park, and I knew there was going to be ups and downs. I had to give myself a break.
I also realized a lot of things happened in June in my personal life that really took my focus away from my business. And yes, that is going to happen. And yes, I have to be okay with it.
My big take away from all this was how incredibly hard I am on myself. And I know you all can relate. Sometimes we are our own worst enemies.
I also realized one of the things that took me away from being my own authentic self was a training I was in over those first two months. It was amazing and taught me so much, but I also started trying to imitate or mimic what they were doing, and it didn't fit me or who I am.
My dad said it best this morning...one size doesn't fit all! Just because it worked for someone else doesn't mean it will work for me. I have to be true to myself, what I believe, and what my brand is!
I am not a duplicate of anyone else. I am my own crazy, original, beautiful self! And I have to be me...unapologetically me!
And let's be real. Life happens. We can't always be 100%... Shoot, we can't always even be 75% or even 50%! And that's a hard pill to swallow sometimes.
And it's hard to be yourself when everyone is telling you what to do or how you should do things or that X works better than Y. I already took a huge leap of faith by leaving my government job and starting my own business! Now I have to continue on my path of being my own self!!
Now that I'm coming out of my funk and this down month, I'm so looking forward to my vacation from July 2-12 in Florida visiting my mom and other family, as well as going to Disney with my beautiful family. And I can not wait. I need it. Emotionally and physically and mentally. I'm going to use this time to rest, relax, renew, and rejuvenate.
I have an amazing summer planned for my business with so many fun events! I'm coming back with my big girl panties on and going to hit it hard, and be okay with the downs. But I'm also going to celebrate my ups!
Are you interested in your own business? Being financially independent? Contact me today to learn more about how you can make this happen for yourself!! Yes, it's work and it isn't always sunshine and roses, but it is the most fulfilling work I've ever done!! You won't regret it!
With love and wellness,
People ask me all the time about what I eat and what I do to look and stay so fit and healthy. They ask if I count calories or macros or whatever crazy thing is the newest fad at that moment.
I wish I could be more help when I say no, I don't do any of that. I eat healthy and the types of food that are best for me; I eat when I'm hungry and I stop when I'm full; and I work out 4-5 times a week doing things that I love. I don't deprive myself but I also don't allow myself to go overboard with the things that I call my "triggers." You know, the types of foods that just make you want everything in sight (mine is anything high in sugar).
It doesn't have to be complicated to work. And unfortunately, there is no magic pill or button. It takes discipline and knowledge about what is best for *you*. What may work for someone else may totally backfire on you.
It took a lot of trial and error to figure out what my food sensitivities are. It wasn't fun and at times, I felt as if I had taken so much food out of my diet that I was literally eating dirt. It was terrible.
But in the end, it has helped me be the most fit I've ever been in my life, including having amazing muscle tone, and my digestive system and skin love me so much more!! Hmmmm...not having bloating or gas or constipation and having beautiful, clear skin. Yep. Sounds like a win to me. Plus this is the first time in my 34+ years that I have felt 110% comfortable in and with my body. Definitely can't beat that.
I now notice a HUGE difference when I eat something my body doesn't agree with. I almost immediately break out in a rash on my stomach and I get the tell-tell zit, usually around my mouth or on my chin or on my cheeks. And I can't go to the bathroom. Like, at all.
It's amazing that feeling like that was "normal" to me just a few years back. And I can't even begin to think about all the doctors I went to, the medicines I took, the torment I went through to "fix" myself.
Yes, were there things going on in my body that were "broken" and needed to be fixed? Absolutely!
Was I "broken" and needed to be fixed? Nope!
I just needed to figure out the root cause of my issues and heal myself. I wasn't broken. But my body needed serious help.
So with many different trial and error food detoxes, I finally figured out what was causing most, if not all, of my issues.
G L U T E N
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And let me tell you, that bad boy is in EVERYTHING!! I've noticed a huge difference since cutting it out and not going out to eat as much. I have more control over what I'm eating at home than I do at restaurants. Makes it so much easier!!
But back to my initial point of this post. No, I don't count calories...never have. I feel as if that would drive me crazy and defeat the point of feeling good in my body. And no, I don't restrict my diet or deprive myself of anything. I eat when I'm hungry. I stop when I'm full. In other words, I *listen* to my body!
What is your body telling you? Are you happy with how you are eating? Do you get stressed out when you think about meal planning or eating? Do you religiously count calories only to find you aren't losing weight or are still hungry?
I want to encourage you to listen to your body. Really feel and hear what it's telling you. If you aren't happy with how you are feeling or how you are eating, it's time to make a change.
Yes, it really is that simple.
Here's the kicker tho:
YOU have to want to make that change. YOU have to work to make that change. YOU have to be willing to change.
It begins and ends with YOU.
People can suggest diet after diet after diet. But if you don't want to make the change, then guess what? It won't work. Plain and simple.
I hope you have a beautiful week. And should you be willing and ready to take on the task of making changes in your life, I would love to help you out! I would love to make your journey a little more pleasant (and shorter) than mine!
With love and wellness,
We are all struggling. Whether we see it in one another or not, we are all struggling with something at any given time on any given day.
This was me a couple weeks ago on a beautiful Saturday morning. I just woke up feeling blah. I didn’t like the way I felt in my clothes or what I saw in the mirror. It was just one of those mornings. It was a struggle to be positive, to put a smile on my face and keep on keepin’ on.
But I put it behind me and walked out the door knowing I had a busy morning and would be amongst friends for the day. I’ll be honest, I didn’t really think about it again once I got to the gym as there aren’t mirrors there (thankfully). Regardless, the feelings were still there under the surface. You know what I mean, right?
So on this particular morning, we were doing a hero WOD at my gym, Memorial Day Murph. This consisted of a 1 mile run, 100 pull-ups, 200 push-ups, 300 air squats (partitioned however you wanted – I did mine in 20 rounds of 5-10-15), then another 1 mile run.
During the last mile, I was running the opposite direction of the people in the next round who were running their first mile. It was awesome cheering them on, just as they kept me going with their cheers and words of encouragement. At this point in my workout, I had my shirt off and was running in a sports bra and shorts (did I mention it was miserable hot and sunny??).
After it was all said and done, I felt amazing. I felt strong. I had a huge PR from doing this same workout in 2015. And then one of the girls said something to me that literally brought tears to my eyes and sent chills through my body…she looked at me and said, “Whitney, I just have to tell you…you are one bad ass muscular woman. There aren’t many people that look good running, but you are one of them.”
I couldn’t believe it because that was exactly what I needed to hear that day. I thanked her and told her about my morning. It’s amazing how hearing something like that can be so profound and can alter your day, in such a GREAT way!!
I think, far too often, we are so absorbed in what we look like or how we are feeling that we don’t realize other people are also struggling…with their looks, with how they feel, with personal relationships in their lives, with whatever is going on in their lives. With the right words and sentiment behind it, we can literally change another person’s day!
Let’s try to remember this as we go through our days. Every person we meet is literally going through their own struggle, no matter how big or small it is. So we should be slow to judge, quick to feel compassion, and have a nice word for everyone. It literally costs nothing to give someone a smile and a “hello” or “have a nice day” or even a compliment. I told a stranger in a store the other day that I loved her dress. I promise, it makes a huge difference in people’s lives!!
I hope you have a beautiful day!! And remember, YOU are amazing! You are unique and beautiful and a blessing to this world!
With love and wellness,
Some days just don't go as planned. I don't know about you, but if I let it, it makes me want to scream and cry and throw things. Because it is so dang frustrating!
I mean, we have plans! We are making things happen. And POOF. Just kidding. Try again.
Take one day last week, for example. The morning activities Scott and I had after dropping the kids off took way longer than expected. So, naturally, we got home later than expected and were rushing around to get everything ready (he had to leave for work and I was prepping for a meeting, picking Chloe up from school, doing a little work at a coffee shop, then picking up the boys for the gym), plus trying to grab lunch before we left the house.
We get everything all done, stuff is loaded in my car, I'm feeling good, ready, pumped for my meeting...you know, ecstatic that I got everything done and wasn't rushing out the door last minute!
I kiss Scott goodbye, put the dogs up and head out into the garage. Get in, get situated, and turn the key. Click click click click click.
Okay. Wait a sec. Try again. Click click click click click.
Are. You. Kidding. Me.
I immediately call Scott, who is also in disbelief that my car won't start. Thankfully he had just left the house so wasn't too far to turn around. We try jumping it and nothing. Over and over and over again.
Needless to say, I had to cancel my meeting because I knew I wasn't making it there. Scott and I somehow managed to get my car to the nearest auto shop (let's just say we went country that day!!) within the hour, and we made some last minute plans.
I was able to meet with the woman I had planned to meet for a quick minute or so and drop off the paperwork she was expecting, Scott and I were able to pick Chloe up from school together, and in the end, it ended up just being a bad battery.
Scott was able to change it out and just like that, we had two vehicles again! He went into work late, and I was able to keep my cool, get a new battery, and still make it to the gym with the boys!
Whew. I'm still tired thinking about that day.
When my car initially made that dreaded click click click noise, I wanted to throw my hands up and cry. Or ask why me. But almost as soon as I had that thought, I told myself that wasn't happening. This wasn't the end of the world and in the grand scheme of things, it could have been a whole lot worse.
Did we have to change our schedules and be flexible? Absolutely. Were we able to get our stuff done and pick Chloe up from school on time? Yup.
We are all thrown curve balls every now and again. That's a given. But it isn't how many curve balls you are thrown or how many you manage to avoid, it's how you handle yourself during those moments.
I could have easily thrown my hands in the air and said, "Screw it! I'm done! No more until tomorrow." Scott could have handled it all.
But I recognized that this little mishap in our day helped Scott and I solve a problem together. We got more time together because of it. And it made me realize that other people are flexible and understanding, as well.
Life happens. Again and again. But let's handle it with grace and love and integrity. We can ask why me until we are blue in the face but let's be real...everyone faces adversity and mishaps and curve balls.
So instead of saying why me, ask how you can handle it and learn from it. Focus on the positives from the experience, even if they aren't always easy to see.
Because, I guarantee, we'll have these same things happen more than once... Learn from it. Grow from it. And recognize that it won't even matter tomorrow. Or in a week. Or in a month.
Have a beautiful day!
With love and wellness,