Let me ask you a question...
When will you stop caring about other people's opinions of your life? When will you start worrying more about your happiness over other people's opinions?
Okay, so I know that was two questions. But I think they are insanely important.
Far too often, we put other people and their opinions above what we want, what will make us happy. We worry so much about how it will look to other people, what they will think, if they'll still like us, if they'll approve.
And here's the real question...WHO CARES if they approve (or don't)?
Does their approval pay your bills? Does their approval make you happy? Does their approval mean you've achieved everything you've hoped for?
I am willing to bet the answer to all those questions is NO.
If you always put off what you want to do because of other people, then you will never achieve your goals nor find true happiness. You may end up resenting that person or worse, staying stuck in a situation where you are unhappy or miserable.
I, unfortunately, know this feeling all too well. I was one of those people. I wanted everyone's approval. Well, more specifically, my mom's. But I also wanted to please everyone else. I didn't always put myself first when it came to making decisions.
To look back, it sounds so silly. How could I have possibly put other people, who didn't necessarily matter, and what they thought before my own happiness?
I stayed in a job I was unhappy with for far too long because I thought it was what I was supposed to do. Where I was supposed to be. Who I was supposed to be.
And it took me far too long to come to terms with who I really am. I tried to hide it, tried to bury it, and I was so miserable.
Be true to yourself. Be unapologetically you. Be bold in following your dreams. Live YOUR life. Not anyone else's.
Have a beautiful week. And continue living YOUR best life.
With love and wellness,
So we're back to the grind, but our get-away last week was exactly what we both needed. It wasn't very long away, but it was perfect.
We chose to go to Williamsburg because it's far enough away that we aren't living our every day lives (no work, no babies, no responsibilities, etc), but it's close enough that we didn't have to worry about traveling too far there or back.
Neither of us had stayed at the Historic Powhatan Resort so we weren't sure what to expect. But as we pulled into the gated community, this first picture was what welcomed us. It was so quiet and peaceful with a couple lakes with fountains. And this building though...I'm not sure why, but I love it. I loved driving into the resort and seeing it. There's another picture I took with the sunset behind it. Absolutely gorgeous.
We went without any plans. That was my one stipulation. We plan so much of our lives on a daily basis that I wanted the opportunity to not HAVE to do anything.
We spent the first evening out to dinner, then relaxing in the condo watching a movie. Oh, and the condo! It was absolutely gorgeous. A king sized bed in the bedroom, two full bathrooms, a full sized kitchen, and an upstairs loft/sitting area. We spent our last evening in the loft watching movies, snuggled up on the couch.
Somehow we came across a brochure for a ghost tour. Nick gave me crap for it at first (I love those kinds of things!), but then after some research, decided he wanted to go. So we spent our second night in downtown Williamsburg walking around, hoping to see some ghosts! We got some interesting pics (they're on Nick's phone), but we aren't 100% sure what, if anything, we saw.
Our last day was the most filled, but also the most relaxing and fun. We suffered through one of those timeshare presentations to get a free gift card (sometimes you make sacrifices for the gain, LOL). The gift card gave us two free meals, two free hour massages, a new journal for Nick, and other little odds and ends (Bangs and cookies, LOL).
We wanted to go on another ghost walk/tour in Yorktown that evening, but none were available. So we'll definitely have to go to that! Anyone want to join us?
As we checked out and headed back, we were both relaxed, but neither of us were ready to leave. We came back to a doctor's appointment for me. And now, today, a minor outpatient surgery.
So I may be out of pocket, once again, for today. But I'll be back at it tomorrow :)
I hope you all had a beautiful St. Patrick's Day...and I hope you have a beautiful week!
With love and wellness,
2019 has been a whirlwind so far. From being a newlywed to setting new goals to achieving some of those goals already, it's been flying by.
With that said, we haven't had much of a break.
So we've decided to take some time OFF! Hubs and I are going off grid for a couple days and spending time as just the two of us.
I. Can. Not. Wait.
We are heading out of town this afternoon and truly embracing our time as husband and wife. No fur or human babies. No work. No responsibilities. Just the two of us.
It is so vital to take some time away from everything every now and again. It does a few things for you:
1) It gives you something to look forward to. 2) It allows you the time to rest, relax, and renew. And
3) You come home refreshed, with a clear mind and ready to get back into the groove of things.
Truthfully, this is our first vacation since last July. It's long overdue and very much needed, for both of us. When you're like us and set huge goals, you tend to work yourself into the ground to achieve those goals. And it's absolutely necessary to take the breaks so you don't wear yourself out!
The best part is I'm finally using the timeshare I've had for two years! **Insert shock face**
I didn't think I would ever use it, but I'm so happy we're able to take advantage of it. A few days away with my husband is exactly what the doctor ordered!
If you need something over the next couple days, feel free to message me, but I won't be responding to much until I'm back in town. I'll be checking things a couple times a day, but for the most part, I'm going dark! I'm going to be loving on my husband, resting, relaxing, and enjoying time away!
Have a great week!
With love and wellness,
There are moments in life where you'll be scared. Where you won't know which way to go. Which decision to make. What's right or wrong.
And that's okay!
It's okay to be scared. It's okay to not have the answers.
What's not okay is burying your head in the sand and pretending like nothing is wrong. Or hiding away from the world. Or continuing down the same path of destruction.
Be scared, but make forward progress. Put yourself out there. Make mistakes. Learn from them. Grow. Change. Get stronger. Start over again.
Something I had to come to terms with is that you are never too old to start over. To have new dreams. To begin again.
We get into our heads, thinking that we have to be in a certain place by a certain age. And we aren't allowed to deviate from that.
I mean...I didn't get married until my mid-30s. And I never thought I'd end up divorced. Ever. But life has a funny way of shaking things up. Of getting us exactly where we need to be. Even if the journey there isn't the most fun.
Before my life was flipped upside down, I was scared to do a lot of things. I was scared to try new things. I was timid. I played the "what if" game with just about everything. I mean...anything could go wrong! I could fail! *Gasp*
But now? Well...now I know I can survive a whole lot more than I ever imagined. I have been to rock bottom and I survived.
This, my friends, makes it easier for me to try new things. To make changes. And to start all over again.
I've started all over again numerous times now. I've started my own business. I've left a very cushy, secure government job. I got divorced, after telling everyone I was never going to get divorced. I was a one and done type of married woman. I've changed directions in my business. I've added new specialties. I've taken things out of my business. I've gotten married again. And am now working on starting a family.
I love the things that have happened in my life to get me where I am now. In the moments, of course, they weren't fun and I wish I could've changed them. But I wouldn't have learned anything had they hadn't happened. I wouldn't be the woman I am today without those things happening.
Life changes. Circumstances change. We have to be willing to grow and adapt and change with them. Otherwise, we stay stuck in the same place. I don't know about you, but I don't want to stay stuck!
So be willing to grow...even if you're scared. Be willing to make changes...even if you're scared. Get up, get out there, open up to new ideas, learn, evolve, make changes.
I hope you all have a beautiful week. And embrace any new changes happening in your life.
With love and wellness,