While this past year has been full of changes, none has been as big as the changes in my thoughts and my belief. With everything that happened to me, I found myself doubting where I was in life and what I could accomplish, especially on my own.
I didn't know if I would ever be able to find my way back...to what, I'm not sure, but I didn't know if I would ever get back there.
And for a long time, I wanted to get back to where I had previously been. I tried my darnedest to get back there. And I was spinning my wheels...I was super frustrated and because of that, nothing happened. I didn't move forward at all.
At the end of the summer in 2018, I realized that I couldn't go back and be the same person I was before. Nor did I want to be that person anymore. So what I was trying to do was impossible.
It took me awhile to figure out how to get where I wanted to be. I'll be honest...I think I over-thought the crap out of it, which happens to be one of my specialities.
I spun my wheels for awhile...again. I mean, I couldn't figure it out. It just seemed like I couldn't get myself back on track, no matter what I did.
So. Darn. Frustrating.
Until it hit me. I mean, like full on hit me.
I didn't believe in myself anymore. I didn't believe in my abilities and what I could do. I had let the circumstances of what happened bring me down. I had let them beat me...almost.
As we ended 2018 and I was finally getting my life back to where I wanted and needed it to be, I knew 2019 was going to be different. Not only because I have my best friend standing next to me and helping me achieve my goals, but also because I got ME back!
I realized that the only thing holding me back was ME! I was making excuse after excuse. I hate to admit it, but I was blaming everything else but me.
I got a book for Christmas called the Five Minute Journal...I talked about it in a previous blog post. All I know is that it really helped me focus on the things I am grateful for and to re-focus my belief and confidence in myself.
I know it doesn't seem like much, but it has helped me tremendously. Changing my mindset and remembering that I am enough and worthy of success. And that it doesn't matter what has happened to me...that it doesn't define me.
And so far, I have taken 2019 by storm. I've made some changes in my business and I'm making big plans for my future. And I don't plan on slowing down!
I truly believe that what the mind can believe, the mind can achieve. And I don't know about you, but I'd much rather focus on the positives and what I'm grateful for than wallow in what I don't have. Because I am pretty darn blessed!
I hope you all have an awesome week. And focus on the positives this week! You'll find it makes a big difference!
With love and wellness,
I don’t often get the chance to go away for the weekend. I plan and pack my schedule, fitting things in where I can and need to in order to get things done. And yes, that includes on the weekends.
It’s how I’ve always been. And often, it’s what I need to do so I can fit it all in.
So when a friend invites me to her new house out of town, I find an open weekend and we make it happen!
I spent this past weekend with my friend, Danielle. She moved from the Hampton Roads area to North Carolina last summer and I hadn’t yet had the chance to visit. Life kept getting in the way. But we were finally able to plan it and I made the drive down Friday evening.
It was so nice to be away from the hustle and bustle of every day life. Of doing household chores and laundry and the responsibility of being an adult. And it was so nice to catch up. To have quality girl time with a good friend who I’ve missed since she moved.
The beautiful part of it is that we didn’t make big plans to do anything. We didn’t rush around from one event to the next. We rested. We relaxed. We recharged our batteries. And we did so while enjoying good food and good company.
It was nice to not have plans. It was nice to be able to relax. It was nice to be lazy and nap on the couch with a movie on in the background. And it was nice to do so with a good friend.
I don’t often get that. I don’t often allow myself to do that because I feel like I’m not being productive. I feel like I’m falling behind. I feel like I’m missing out on something.
But resting and recharging is actually one of the best things you can do for yourself. It allows you to reset and give your brain and body a rest. Some of my best ideas and plans come from my downtime. When I let myself STOP thinking about my business. The ideas often just pop in my head.
And yes, I know I can reset at home. I can allow myself the down time. But I’m still a work in progress when it comes to that. It’s hard for me to do, even though I know it’s beneficial.
My goal for this year is to allow myself this down time. Even when I’m at home. I shouldn’t have to drive to a friend’s house four hours away in order to get it.
How about you? Do you need some down time, as well? Build it into your schedule. Allow yourself to take it. I promise, you’ll end up being much more productive in the long run.
Have a beautiful week! And take that down time!
With love and wellness,
So for any of y'all who have been following me for awhile, you know I used to live in a world of "What if."
What if I failed? What if I couldn't do it? What if it didn't work out? What if? What if? What if?
I worked my butt off to get out of that habit. To place my faith in God and to stop letting fear run my world. Because "what if" is rooted in fear. Especially when all your what if's are negative. And all mine were. I never turned it around to "What if I succeed beyond my wildest dreams?"
2018 knocked me on my butt. It knocked out my belief and confidence in myself, especially when it comes to my business. And I didn't know how to get it back.
But 2019 has brought new books, new beliefs, new goals. It's like I get the things I need most when I least expect it. Based on a couple books I received for Christmas, I've started focusing more on what I'm grateful for, what I've learned and how I've grown over the past year. And I've started focusing on my goals and the actions I need to take to reach them.
And of course, I've started believing in myself more. I survived something I didn't think I could. Or think I would. But I'm tired of just SURVIVING. I can, and will, do so much more than that! I will start to THRIVE! I have started to thrive!
I know what I'm worth. What I have to offer. And what I'm capable of. And when I couple that with my belief and then put it into action, well...watch out, world! Whitney is back!
Anything is possible when you believe in yourself and when you put it into action. Because you can't have one without the other...not if you want to be successful.
So if you're having issues believing in yourself, that's where you need to start. Believe you are worthy, believe you are enough, believe you are capable. Because you are. And then, when your belief is big enough, start taking action! Be brave. Believe in yourself enough to do what you've always dreamed.
Here's a good wait to start believing in yourself. Every morning, as soon as you wake up, write three things you are grateful for. They can be things you already have, things you are aiming for, even the smallest things.
For instance, here were mine this morning:
1) My successful R+F business.
2) Nick and I's successful CrossFit gym.
3) Coffee and it's magical ability to help me function.
Then write out an "I am" statement. I have lots for myself.
I am brave. I am strong. I am enough. I am a successful business owner. I am confident. I am a successful leader.
Start telling yourself things you believe, or want to believe, about yourself. The crazy thing is once you get in the habit of doing this every day, you'll start believing it! It's amazing how it works!
Then, in the evening, write out three amazing things that happened to you during the day. It doesn't have to be something huge to be amazing. For instance, one day this week, Nick called his car insurance and simply by telling them we were married, it lowered his monthly premium rate! I called that a huge win for that day!
Then write out one thing you could have done better. Many days, mine is that I should have been more patient. I'll admit that I am not the most patient person sometimes, especially when it comes to dealing with certain things. It's something I am working on, oftentimes daily.
So try it out. Commit to doing this for a week. Let me know how it works for you! I'd love to watch your belief shoot through the roof and for you to achieve all your goals in 2019!
I hope y'all have an amazing week!
With love and wellness,
So, I turn 37 today.
Wow. It feels surreal to say that. Because let's be real...I don't feel that old.
Although...is it really that old? Because I don't feel it at all. And I know I don't look it (or act it).
But this birthday has me thinking...why do we start to understand things that have happened to us as we age? Why does it only become obvious as we age why or how things have happened?
I mean, if I knew what I know now when I was 20 years old, I would most likely make completely different choices. But does that defeat the purpose of living and learning and experiencing things?
I mean...why do we not know these things when we're younger? Do we need the life lessons to get us where we're supposed to be? Is it necessary for us to go through life lessons in order for us to be exactly who we're meant to be?
I would venture a guess that yes, we do have to go through them. When we're young, we don't have a fear in the world (or at least most of us don't). We take risks and changes that we wouldn't necessarily take as we get older. We view things differently. Everything is the end of the world. And as we get older, we realize that not everything requires such a drastic response.
I look back at the things I've been through, the decisions I've made, the life I've lived, and I 100% know that I would not be the person I am today without all of it. I wouldn't have had the fun, the experiences, the laughter, the growth...it would have been no fun to know what I know now.
We learn a lot as we experience life and grow older. We learn what we want. What we'll tolerate. What is an absolute no go. We learn what we like. What we don't like. We learn to love ourselves.
So...we live. We learn. Then we understand.
Welcome to life.
Embrace it. Love your journey. Love your experiences. Learn what you need to from it. And love your life!
Don't forget to learn what you need to...and don't forget to love your life.
Have an awesome week!
With love and wellness,